I recently read a blog post titled “You Don’t Need to Use Curse Words in Blog Posts” and I was surprised that I had a lot to say on the topic, despite the fact I don’t really ever swear – while blogging or in real life.
The blogger, Tina Marie Ernspiker opens by calling it “Idiotic” and that ” It’s like the author can’t think of another way to express themselves so they lower their standards to speak as neanderthals.” and then went on to say “It’s like the high school it-girl being popular because she’s easy. Yeah, the football team may like her, but do they respect her?”
Gotta love a little bit of casual slut-shaming too. It kind of makes me want to take up swearing…
It’s also interesting she does seem to focus in on women swearing, also referring to “mommy bloggers” who cuss. Which does reflect my experience with swearing; that it’s much less acceptable for women to swear than it is for men. Men will even sheepishly apologise for swearing in the company of women, because we shouldn’t even hear such words, let alone say them (or write them).
It reminds me of this sex-ed paper that went viral a little while ago, where people lost their minds over the fact that a teenage girl used cuss-words in perfect context. Sure, “Go Fuck Yourself” is a little jarring to read on a school paper, but it is a perfectly reasonable response to being told “I’m clean; I don’t run around, and I don’t have any infections” as an excuse not to wear a condom.
If she were my daughter I’d high-five her. I’d be genuinely proud. Because those words have power. There is a full stop, hard line, absoluteness about using them.
So, why should women and girls be banned from having that power?
Actually one of my own life goals is to say the C-word without blushing. Without feeling like I need to shy away from it. It’s still a long way off for me seeing as I’d even struggle to type it – for now it’s still “the C-word”.
Occasionally, I will write a swear word, for a blog or social media – because even though I don’t say them aloud I certainly think them – but more often than not I’ll delete it before I hit enter and I’ll switch it for “funk” or “shiz” or redirect the sentence entirely.
Funnily enough I will refrain from using the odd oath for the reasons mentioned in Tina Marie Ernspiker’s post; I don’t want to appear to be less respectable- even if I know that’s total and utter bull-twang.
But swearing is no more an indicator of someone’s immorality as it is of their lack of intelligence. I think it’s naive to assume that a blogger who swears, verbally or in writing, only does so because they’re unable to express themselves in other ways.
I also don’t think that blog posts with a smattering of swear-words are popular because they’re trying to be sensational, as Tina suggests. I think bloggers who write in their authentic voice are easier to connect with, to relate to and see as a real person. Of course you can be a real person without swearing, like if I started using expletives in my writing it probably would come across awkward and forced, because it’s simply not my usual voice. It’s totally okay to NOT swear also, if you’d rather not, or you don’t feel comfortable.
My point is – I have an enormous amount of respect for the awesome, powerful, educated, rational, intelligent, sensitive women I know who swear.
And very little respect for anyone who’d think less of them because of it.
How do feel about swearing in blog posts?