Confession: I Think I Have A Favourite Child

The Favourite Child

favourite child

Apparently most parents have a favourite child. We just don’t admit to it. It’s the darkest of all our secrets – the kind of information we should take to our graves. Whenever anyone brings up whether or not we have a favourite child we should respond with outrage at the suggestion. How dare parents have a favourite!?! That’s terrible! Of course we don’t have a favourite.

So, the other day my older kid did something awesome (I can’t even remember what) and the words “You’re my favourite kid” just popped out of my mouth.

My partner heard me and looked at me like I’d just stabbed a bunny.

“No, I mean, favourite boy. You’re my favourite BOY. I don’t have a favourite.”

PHEW. Nice save. Nobody suspects a thing….

The thing is I love them equally, but differently. Because they’re different people. The things I feel for them are different. EQUAL, but different.

My older kid is the one I feel I have the most in common with. We can talk about things that are actually interesting and play games I actually enjoy. Spending time with him, especially one on one time, is genuinely enjoyable. He’s also so easy going, he’s super chilled out, he requires so little of me. He’s also so much like me. Actually, no, he’s so much cooler than I am.

On the other hand I actually feel more closely bonded to my youngest. I spend so much more time focused on her. I worry about her more. She needs me more. She takes up more of my energy, my thoughts, my time, my patience – every single last bit of my patience. We spend a lot more time together (though that’s about to change because she starts school in a few weeks.) She’s also the baby we wanted and tried to have for so long – she’s the baby of my dreams. I loved her for two years before she was even conceived.

I don’t know if I really meant to say he’s my favourite – maybe it was my subconscious was confessing to something I wouldn’t otherwise admit to. But even if he is, even if I do have a favourite kid, as long as I love them the same, and treat them fairly, I don’t see the problem with having a favourite.

Go on, ‘fess up. Do you have a favourite child? 

Rachel Stewart

Rachel is the founder of Parenting Central. She is raising two children, boy and girl, with her partner. Rachel is obsessed prams, car seats, carriers and all things baby. She has worked in the baby industry for several years, for both suppliers and also in a retail setting and has developed a passion for connecting parents with the right products to make their lives easier. When Rachel isn't playing with prams she's enjoys crocheting, drinking coffee (sometimes wine) and spending a little too much time on Facebook.


  1. I wouldn’t call it that, I have one I get along with better, but he’s not my favorite! I love them all equally, they’re all not my favorite people sometimes and my favorite at other times and it’s usually at different times for each. You still treat them equally tho while they’re kids, just might choose to hang out with certain offspring when they’re adults more than the others.

  2. I wonder if you are still so used to thinking of her as your baby
    So it’s your kid and your baby?

    My dad always found random ways of calling us his favourite of a specific type of kid (favourite girl/boy, soccer player, ballerina etc favourite oldest child ?)

    1. She is my baby. I think that’s what I meant too. Because he’s my “kid”. In fact, half the time I don’t use his name, I just call him “kid”… and he calls me “Rach”. lol

    2. Of course you like her
      But she s not your kid
      She’s quite clearly your baby
      Like one day she’ll be a 60 year old lady with grandkids and you’ll be like ‘shes still my baby’ 😛

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