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How i Communicate with a 4 Year Old?

This article was inspired by a friend; He said to me “I like the way you communicate with your boy, My brother just yells and screams at his boy.” There is scientific evidence a baby in the mum’s womb are learning to identify communication via touch and sound. Therefore from birth, parents should begin teaching their children basic communication skills. I am personally big on communication, I love to network, talk to everyone i meet, ask questions and learn new stuff, (got this from my dad). I am a big believer in communication and now it is my turn to teach my children. This can be easily done by conversing daily with your children. – For example, When i get home from work i start a conversation by asking about his day, what did you do today? What did you learn today? or what did you do to help mum…

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To Nurse to Sleep or to Not…

There’s all this silly controversy in the baby world of debaters and ‘experts’. The attachment parents (AP) say, ‘nurse your baby to sleep‘. The anti-AP (Is there a term for these people?)

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Dear Mum on the Iphone

Dear Mum on the Iphone I know I’m coming late to the party, there are already a dozen perfectly good responses to Dear Mom on the iphone, this Dear Mom on the Iphone – I get it being one of my favourites. But that blog post does keep popping back into my mind, not because it triggers guilty feelings, as I’ve seen mentioned on social media that only people with a guilty conscience would be upset by it… Well, actually, no that’s EXACTLY it… It DOES trigger guilty feelings. Not rational guilt. “Mummy guilt”. It’s similar to the guilt I feel when I spent more than $5 on myself, or when I wake my partner to help me with the kids because part of me thinks I should just handle it all on my own – THAT kind of guilt. “Dear mom on the iphone” to me feeds the irrational guilt that…

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Night-Waking, Night-Weaning; It’s Not All Night-Mares

Night-Waking, Night-Weaning; It’s Not All Night-Mares The attachment parents (AP) always cop it hard on this one: night waking. We don’t let our kids ‘cry it out’, we wear them, we co-sleep, we breastfeed on demand, and some of us even take our babies to the toilet (called elimination communication), and yet it happens to almost all of us… the constant night waking.  The little newborns start off great, they sleep for 3,4, 5, maybe even 6 hour stretches at night.  You start getting really giddy around 2 months, thinking that your baby is going to start sleeping through the night and then sometime around five months old BAM: constant night waking. Constant night waking can leave you feeling quit exasperating, especially when everyone is already giving you flack for practicing all the usual attachment parenting philosophies, like feeding on demand and letting your baby sleep in your room or…

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5 things to never say to your other half!

5 things to never say to your other half! I feel I need to share this to any daddy followers out there, the top 5 things to never say to an exhausted, run down mamma.

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Unrealistic Expectations

I often hear people talk of the unrealistic expectations they had before they had kids. How they thought it would be a breeze, they'd pop back to their before-baby-body as soon as the kid escaped them.

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Chat with Daddy

Lately my 1 years old daughter has been making a lot of different sounds (apart from the usual crying & bickering.) I decided to try to capture these sounds on my phone, or I wrote down what type of sounds she was making at the time and what it sounded like. I also documented the time of day, her last feed and sleep time, what she/we was doing at the time, were we playing together or what was she doing. I also tried to pick what mood she was in. Listening carefully to her every sound, apart from the whining, she does make a lot of different sounds. Why? – Well It’s the best way she communicates with us bigger people. From her squeals to her grunts, from her growling to her chuckles and her sighs, what the heck is a 1 year old sighing about??? Some of these noises put a smile on my face  …

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Life According to my Toddler

She doesn't understand that "AWAAAAAHHHH!" means "excuse me mummy, I hate to bother you, but could you please get me a drink of water thanks"

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You know you’re tired when….

You know you’re tired when…. When you wake up on the couch in the middle of the night with a child on you because you fell asleep watching TV and nobody woke you up. When you think baby needs a nappy change, worry because their nappy is completely dry, take it off anyway and then go to put it in the bin and right on top of the rubbish is a nappy – then remember you literally changed their nappy 5 minutes prior. When while cosleeping with baby and preschooler have to consciously check head size and hair length before breastfeeding, in case its the wrong child. When you walk into a room and have no idea what you were there for – a dozen times a day. When you think you’ve been to the toilet, but you’r not sure, and you can’t remember and it takes more time and…

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You hippy, baby-wearing weirdo!

Okay, I admit… When I was pregnant, I assumed that “baby wearing” was for hippies. You know the kind, the ones who refuse to spend the time with a razor more then once every 12 months

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Shower Time

If we could keep the kids indoors and strapped to the couch, where they can’t get dirty you probably could get away with maybe a shower once a week. There is no fun in that. As parents we both let our kids play and get dirty and every night they have to shower and get ready for a relaxing sleep. In our household there is no routine for shower times, it just happen. It’s when the playing stops and dark outside or it’s hurry up it’s bedtime, I just want you out of my hair. The 1st parent to decide its shower time means play time is over for them and it’s shower time. I often shower the kids but sometime when the missus calls shower time she asks me “Do you want to give them a shower?”  and its my option yes or no. HOWEVER the other night she…

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Stop Trying To Fix My Kids Sleep

Stop Trying To Fix My Kids Sleep Ugh, I apologise if this is a bit ranty and not terribly well written – I’ll explain why. Last night my 1 year old and 4 year old “tag teamed” me all night. ALL night. Baby has a blocked nose, it was pissing her off, she couldn’t feed, couldn’t lay on her back, flip flopping around all night, occasionally crying and arching in frustration of not being able to feed. At one point she flopped off the bed. Oh dear. Not a good night for little princess. Her brother woke 3 times, once just to be resettled in his bed, once because he’d walked into furniture in the dark, once to go to the toilet. He slept in our bed the rest of the night because I just couldn’t get up again. (remember, baby is screaming and arching  between her brother waking) long…

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Relationship and Sex

The birth of your first child will be a turning point in your relationship. Every relationship is different and so will be your experiences. While for some dads-to-be it will be an easy shift into fatherhood/parenthood, for others it may create some challenges. Your relationship with your partner might change after she becomes pregnant, she will experience physical, hormonal and emotional changes. How I’ve handled these changes and dealt with having a more emotional partner during pregnancy was being patient & understanding (It went a long way). I talked to her and worked through any stresses she might be feeling about the pregnancy and becoming a mother for the 1st time and 2nd time and that gave me a chance to express my self as the conversations got going. Talking with your partner about what she is comfortable with is important. You can enjoy sex during pregnancy as long as the pregnancy…

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If you child bites do you bite them back?

How is this still a thing, it sounds like advice my grandma would give. "If she's biting, bite her back." But what does biting a child for biting teach them?

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Making Friends As a Mum

In a previous life, before I had children, I was a confident modern woman. I actually asked my partner out on our first date,

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Human Breast Milk Donations…

Human Breast Milk Donations A few years ago, I read in the news about an ice cream shop in the UK that was selling ice cream made from human breastmilk for something like $25 a pop.  At the time, Margo had just been born and I had already been breastfeeding already for several months.  So, the idea of a human consuming another human’s breastmilk didn’t seem too much of a crazy notion to me… although, I could understand some people that would think otherwise! Well, I haven’t had a breastfeeding break since then and the old girls have been working double time lately.  A few weeks ago, a cry went out on a parenting facebook page that I belong to, ‘Local mum in hospital, needs donated milk‘.  Donating breastmilk had been something on my mind for a while.  I had read an amazing story, from a local mum, about the…

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Lying to Children

Lying to Children Do you ever lie to your children? I’ll be honest – I do. Sometimes it’s far easier to tell our 4 year old “No, we don’t have any chocolate in the house” when in fact we do, or “there’s no veggies in the pasta sauce” or that “wine is yucky” and “mummy is going to bed now too” when I’m planning to stay up… and possibly drink wine… Then there’s the whole Santa, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy thing I won’t even get into! I think where maybe it’s unwise to lie to children is when they will learn very quickly that you’ve deceived them. For example; my 4 year old recently had his latest couple of vaccinations, and I told him we were going to the doctors and that he was going to have needles. He pouted and said “But I don’t want needles” and I gently and as…

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Flying with kids

Flying with kids This is something I’ve had a bit of practice at, flying more times now with little people than without them, and I’m still by no means an expert, but now with well over a dozen flights clocked up between two children, often on my own, I’ve had a few trials and plenty of errors with flying with little people – often on my own. Firstly I have a check list. For me the mental check list is almost a self soothing strategy as obviously I can’t mentally run through every single item I have when I travel. So instead I have a list of 5, count them off on each finger, these are the 5 most essential items I carry and everything else is replaceable. This is my mantra for flying, if I have these 5 things everything will be okay. Obviously your list may be a…

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Satellite Cafe Nurse In – No Apology

Satellite Cafe Nurse In – No Apology The turn out was great, a lot of mums, dads, beautiful babies and toddlers, members of the community and media came out to Satellite Cafe this morning to show their support to Reagan Matthews who was discriminated against by the owner of this Cafe for breastfeeding her baby. After the owner had offered to apologise to Reagan in person she failed to turn up to her own Cafe today, her staff explaining that she feared for her safety. The staff who were present were friendly and supportive, handing out bottles of water to breastfeeding mums. It’s just a shame that the owner herself couldn’t have faced up to what she had said and done. There were members of the community showing their support for the owner of the Satellite Cafe, one man saying that she was defending his right not to have to…

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Waiting in Silence

Waiting in Silence My eldest son is about to begin his first term doing Early Intervention. A program where children with special needs are given help to progress in order to go on to things like Mainstream schools. My son has no official diagnosis from a Pediatrician, but the common consensuses is that he is speech and mentally delayed by over a year. He does not use words to express his feelings, but more sounds, grunts, and a lot of crying. It is very hard. The journey to this point has been one giant roller coaster ride. It was made apparent by my Maternal Nurse at 1 and half, that he just didn’t have enough words for his age. I didn’t think anything of it, he was one and a half. He has a lot of time to catch up. At  age 2, I refused to go see her again.…

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Co-Sleeping Conundrums

Co-Sleeping Conundrums It’s all fun and games until someone gets head-butted in the eye…  Don’t get me wrong, I love love love co-sleeping with my babies… actually, it’s not that I love it, it’s just that I can’t imagine it any other way.  Okay, but occasionally, sleeping with a baby and a toddler in the same room/bed does have its funny challenges and dilemmas.  What would the cave people have done… well, they wouldn’t have thought twice about it, they all sleep together and on the same safe sleeping surface… but we all live in houses and have things like mattresses and blankets, etc.  So, we do need to consider a few things in order to make co-sleeping work. We have been co-sleeping with Margo since day #1.  We don’t have a cot (crib) and she has never slept in another room away from us.  At first, Margo was in our…

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Choosing to have a baby under 30

It seems to be a big deal these days, and yes, even frowned upon in some areas, to start a family before you’re 30. In today’s society it’s often seen as irresponsible to even think about babies before the career and owning your first home

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How To Approach Baby Led Weaning

I’m a firm believer in only starting a baby on solids only when they reach certain developmental milestones: sitting, able to put things (food) in their mouth, etc.

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A little bit of Madness

Do you remember....................... Being able to go on the monkey bars, WAAAY HIGH off the ground, do flips, Be able to go on a few a time with friends?

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RSVP – It’s not that hard, is it!!?

Yesterday I ordered my youngest son’s invitations for his 1st birthday party. When thinking of putting together a birthday party, your thoughts are always, who and how many are coming.

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Lifestyle changes for dads

Hey Dads to be or new dads, be prepared for some “goodbyes” Say goodbye to Space around the house. With kids come a-lot of stuff. Babies need prams, bouncers, nappies. Older kids need toys, books, toys and more toys. And the all need clothes! These all seem to take up a lot of space – in every room of the house! Say goodbye to peace and quiet. They are forever talking and making some kind of noise. This is just something that will take some getting used to over time. You can’t always make them stop crying and sometimes it’s nice to just listen to the sounds of a family. Say goodbye to most of your privacy. When you become a parent the day will come where you can’t go to the bathroom without being joined by your child. – They just want to be with you every minute of the…

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Being a new DAD

I believe that there is nothing that can prepare you for the changes of fatherhood. You can read every book, pamphlets, watch every dvd, get advice from other parents, friends, doctors, attend every parenting classes, you will never be completely prepared, all this does is provide you will a good foundation of parenting knowledge. I just want to share some thoughts to help give you an idea of what fatherhood might be like – remembering that every family, baby, person, father and experience is different. When I was asked on how I felt after becoming a father, I took a deep breath and let my feelings do the talking: It feels good to be seen with my family It’s emotionally draining I have a feeling of achievement and pride I feel I have achieved a milestone in my adult life I feel happy Proud Feel fulfilled, contented Feeling of being…

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Dads and Toddlers

Toddlers need’s dads. “According to a study conducted by the Australian Institute of Family Studies Dads are spending about 35 minutes with their children one-on-one each day.” Getting Involved Get involved in your child’s life when your partner is pregnant than at birth through to toddler-hood and the while they are going to school. You will make a big difference to the development of your child’s and a big difference to your family. What makes a dad so so important to a toddler? Research shows when dad is around and involved it makes a positive upbringing for your child.It makes a positive parenting experience and activities/play-time with toddlers makes a massive difference in their lives. Toddlers are happier when they have their dad involved in their lives. The involvement must be consistent and best to be around the same time each day/week. For example, I will read you a story before bed time, or we…

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Breastfeeding in Public

I know this whole “Breastfeeding in public” thing has just kept bubbling away on social media and I do apologise to those who are a bit over hearing about it because I’m going to bring it up again.

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Baby is Starting Child Care

Baby is Starting Child Care I feel totally out of my depth again after 4 years of parenting. And you’d think of all things that I should be totally okay and under control with is a baby starting child care today.

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This Is it

ome days it hits me that the biggest achievement of every day is getting to bedtime. Some nights the biggest achievement is getting to morning (and coffee) because even with very little sleep at least things look a little better in the day light.

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Toilet Training

There is no one way to go about toilet training, as with many parenting topics, what you do, what will work, what will be the best outcome for your child depends very much on your child and your own parenting views.

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New Dad Fears

Experiencing fears about pregnancy, birthing and becoming a parent is normal for dads. Bringing home for the first time a new tiny person that is going to rely on you for their safety, well-being and to bring them up “right” can be stressful. You might feel the pressure of having them rely on you to earn enough money to support your family and take care of things. It’s important to discuss your new dad fears, here’s some guidelines when discussing with your partner. Be honest and open, say what’s on your mind, better out than in. She may have the same fears and stress as you No judging each other Be supportive of each other values and fears TIP: You should research being pregnant and know what stage she is up to in her pregnancy. Ask your partner questions / talk to her / get involved / Read other pages…

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Unsolicited Advice

It's an annoying phenomenon that comes with becoming a parent, from the moment you conceive (or even beforehand) you become bombarded with advice.

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