I’m over cooking dinner.
Thinking about it. Planning it. Buying it. (Spending all that money.) Bringing it home. Cooking it. Serving it. Hoping it actually gets eaten. The post-dinner clean up.
All of it. The whole process. I’m over it.
I’m sick of worrying and wondering is there something I should be doing different. Can I do better? Should I be spending less? Am I buying the right kinds of foods? Is everyone going to be happy and actually eat it?
I’m frustrated with trying to feed a family with different tastes and preferences and being met with some downright rude responses all round when I serve up something to the whole family that isn’t to someone’s personal taste.
The hardest thing is dinner happens at the worst time of day. Everyone is tired, they’re grumpy, they’re less reasonable and more sensitive. There’s really nothing good about dinner time. The idea of everyone sitting down and enjoying the same meal, at the same time, engaging in pleasant and polite conversation, saying “Thank you for cooking this wonderful dinner for us.” is a bit of a fantasy. (One that I’ve clung to for far too long, but I really do need to let it go!)
Even our littlest who eats absolutely everything is learning to say “I don’t like that” – EVEN THOUGH SHE DOES. She’s parroting her brother. She’s watching her father push away his meal and open the fridge and go hunting for snacks instead of the meal I’ve just cooked, with the food that I planned and paid for.
And just to make things even more super fun, when I get out a pad and paper and I start to plan the week’s menu I ask my family for input – what do they want for dinner? And our littlest draws a lollipop on my shopping list (Very cute). Our oldest suggests “Chicken nuggets and chips.” (We’ll see) And my partner very diplomatically says “Whatever you want.” – Wrong answer.
If it was whatever I want everyone would leave the table in a huff every night (except our littlest, she really will eat anything. She’s a champ!)
I don’t want to have to cook multiple meals so everyone is happy! I don’t want to only ever cook the very limited selection of meals that everyone will eat! I don’t want to have the argument, the drama, the complaining! I don’t want to keep having good food – and the good money it cost – go to waste! I just don’t want to do it any more!
So the only solution is – I quit!
(Oh wait. I can’t quit. I still have to at least try to feed my kids. Damnit!)
What do you do when everyone doesn’t like/eat the same foods?