Lose That Baby Weight!
Is anyone else just completely fed up with the pressure to be thin, sexy, and beautiful – all the time? I’m over it! Completely and utterly OVER IT. Even Facebook keeps telling me, on a daily basis, that I have to lose my baby weight, inviting me to like weight-loss and fitness pages, showing me before and after shots of other mums who lost weight. It’s everywhere. All the time. The message is loud and clear, it’s only acceptable to be thin and attractive if you are a woman. This isn’t exactly a new issue, or new for people to be outraged about it, but the intensity of the pressure seems to be growing. Or maybe it’s now that I can see it – I can’t un-see it.
I feel like screaming that I don’t owe anyone anything. I don’t owe the world a sexier me. I don’t owe Facebook my pre-pregnancy body back. I’m not a painting on the wall that’s purpose is to be looked at, and to be attractive, I am a person! My body rocks! It gave life to two little people and continues to nourish one of them, it gets me where I’ve got to go and I’m grateful for my overall health. Shouldn’t that be valued much higher than body weight or attractiveness?
This pressure to be sexy, and attractive, no matter what you do, or who you are – if you’re a woman – is plastered all over the media. Within 24 hours of Kate Middleton giving birth to a healthy baby, “OK!” magazine in the UK featured the title “Kate’s Post-Baby Weight Loss Regime” on the front cover. There is speculation that Kim Kardashian is in hiding until she had lost the weight she gained during pregnancy, meanwhile Kanye West apparently deserves praise for not pressuring her lose weight. And I know that Jessica Simpson is a spokesperson for weight watchers, but she’s only just had her second baby 5 weeks ago and has just revealed her “Post-baby slim-down” already.
This culture that values the attractiveness of women above anything else was highlighted yesterday when Tony Abbot listed the attributes of the liberal candidate Fiona Scott as being “young, feisty… with a bit of sex appeal…”
No! No Tony Abbot. Just no.
But remember, you also can’t be too sexy, as this might impact your ability to function in a workplace – a recent study suggests that women shouldn’t wear pants to work because 53% of men were turned on by women in pants and “because if you turn a man on, you diminish your image as an expert or an authority figure.” Excuse me while I go throw up. And then check the date. I’m pretty sure it’s not the 1950’s.
I feel like it keeps coming back to women owe the world how we look, we’re owe everyone the right to look, and respond, however they want, and whatever response anyone has it’s absolutely our responsibility. This is all disillusioning because I was so sure I was born into a better time than this. I thought these incredibly out-dated views were dead and buried.
I’m not saying that conversations about health, and weight loss, celebrating fitness goals or complimenting how someone looks are necessarily all bad things. There’s a time, and place – the problem is that it’s all the time and everywhere. It’s that women seem to be valued only on their attractiveness, and if they are less attractive does that mean they are worth less?
Is this whole issue getting worse – or is it just being highlighted more?