The birth of your first child will be a turning point in your relationship. Every relationship is different and so will be your experiences. While for some dads-to-be it will be an easy shift into fatherhood/parenthood, for others it may create some challenges.
Your relationship with your partner might change after she becomes pregnant, she will experience physical, hormonal and emotional changes.
How I’ve handled these changes and dealt with having a more emotional partner during pregnancy was being patient & understanding (It went a long way). I talked to her and worked through any stresses she might be feeling about the pregnancy and becoming a mother for the 1st time and 2nd time and that gave me a chance to express my self as the conversations got going.
Talking with your partner about what she is comfortable with is important. You can enjoy sex during pregnancy as long as the pregnancy is considered low risk. (Speak to your health professional; don’t feel embarrassed, they’re used to these questions.) As with any other aspect of pregnancy, it’s important for you and your partner to speak openly about what feels right for each of you.
Of course, just because sex is safe during pregnancy doesn’t mean you and your partner will want to have it. You will find hers and your sex drive may vary during the different stages – some women have a higher sex drive during pregnancy than they do otherwise.
Be mindful if you don’t feel comfortable having sex during pregnancy to talk about those feelings too with her, so she doesn’t interpret your lack of sex drive as a lack of love and affection (remember – she may be a bit more emotional during pregnancy, so be sensitive to her self esteem and body image as her body changes)
Once baby arrives sex will probably be the last thing on her mind. Depending on how your baby was born your partner may not be able to have sex for 6 weeks. While sex may not be on the agenda straight away, don’t forget to show your love and affection to her during this time. Remember her body has gone through big changes, (giving birth to your child) and will need time to re-adjust. Her breasts might be full of milk for the baby, so finding fun-ways (locations, positions) that are comfortable will be a challenge (game) for both of you.
Just remember this might feel like a long time without much sex, affection or attention, but pregnancy doesn’t last forever and babies don’t stay little long. Keep communication open and you’ll get through together.