RSVP – It’s not that hard, is it!!?

RSVP – It’s not that hard, is it!!?

Yesterday I ordered my youngest son’s invitations for his 1st birthday party. When thinking of putting together a birthday party, your thoughts are always, who and how many are coming. You place a date of when you’d like to hear back from people on if they are coming or not.

When I had a baby shower with my eldest. I invited 40 women. People from work, family and friends. It was my chance to reconnect with my friends before the baby came. Up to the day, I knew at least 38 of them WERE coming. As only 2 contacted me by my RSVP

I made food for that many people, supplied enough beverages for that many people. Had bags for that many people, I was set! Come day of.. More then half Sms’d me, right up to 10mins before the party began.
“Sorry, I thought it was a Sunday.”

Every time there is a birthday party, special event, for me or my family, I get stressed out, by the lack of common courtesy to stick to an RSVP.

In the world today, an RSVP doesn’t seem to mean much anymore. At least in my experience. In a world we have Facebook, Twitter and SMS, people seem to like leaving these things to the very last possible moment. It doesn’t matter if it’s easier, as you don’t have to actually ‘talk’ to the person in anyway. But it is normally common courtesy to contact the person by the set date on the invitation. Especially if the person is spending money out of their own pocket to accommodate you.

My only thoughts coming from the other end, is to make sure your RSVP is a few weeks before your party. To give people plenty of time to sort out things like time off. And to avoid any possible arrangements that haven’t been booked yet.

And one more thing. If you receive an invitation, WRITE/TYPE the party/special occasion in a calendar somewhere. The last thing someone wants to hear is that they thought it was a different day, cause seriously, that is a stupid excuse to give anyone to why you can’t attend.


Mimmi is a mother of 2 handsome boys, Keiran (2009) and Davin. (2012) She is a full time stay at home mum, taking care of my boys; her eldest with autism and both of them with developmental delays. She is a huge video game player, and loves to eat large amounts of curry.

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