The Project recently aired a segment about mothers regretting becoming mums. Which has naturally a divisive topic. But I think it’s an important topic to allow people to talk about.
It’s Perinatal Depression and Anxiety Awareness Week, and rather than just sharing my own experience with Postnatal Anxiety I wanted to give people the opportunity connect with a range of other voices, to show that if you are going through Perinatal Depression and Anxiety that you’re not alone, and also that individual experiences with Depression and Anxiety can vary.
My own journey with Anxiety has been going on for 7 years – not continuously – but my anxiety does come back from time to time since my children were born (my son is 7 and my daughter is 3) and there are a lot of things that I’ve learned about Perinatal Anxiety and Depression in that time, either things I just didn’t know that I didn’t know, or things that I had been completely wrong about.
“Was he planned” is one of the most ridiculous (also rude) questions I’ve ever been asked and still after 7 years of being asked it I’m still not entirely sure what kind of answer people are looking for…
But the question itself is completely absurd, because the only answer there could possibly be is “yes”.
Today – and any day – is a good day to ask people that simple question; “R U OK” You might start a conversation that could change someone’s life.
According to Beyond Blue in Australia:
1 in 6 people will experience depression at some stage in their lives.
1 in 4 people will experience anxiety.
1 in 7 mothers will experience postnatal depression and 1 in 10 mothers will experience antenatal depression. Anxiety is likely to be as, if not more, common.
I read this post “Why do parents make parenting sound so God-awful?” recently and then again on DailyLife under the title “Do parenting blogs put women off motherhood?” and I’ve heard childless friends express similar feelings, so I thought I’d throw a little glimmer of hope your way.
I’ll start by saying that I don’t think it’s all bad to vent away, online, or in real life, it can be liberating, entertaining, and it can still be brave. I know for myself, I was telling people that I was feeling great, how much I loved being a mum, how easy my son was as a newborn – that he was sleeping well – gosh It was a fairy tale that everyone said it would be!
Krystle’s PND Story Before I begin the next part of my story, i want to clear up the misconception i had about PND. I thought mums who got PND hated motherhood, and hence became depressed. How wrong I was. I loved being a mum and I loved my son intensely. …