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The Special One

Grand slam tennis champion, Andy Murray’s mum tweeted a photo of him with the description “ The Special One with My Special One.”

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Which is lovely but her other son, Jamie Murray, who is also a tennis player, was the first to respond to tweet.

 

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I can kind of relate though!

I’d always thought my mum was more closely bonded with my brother. It’s hard to describe, it’s not like she favoured him, or treated him differently, I just never felt like I had what they had. And a couple of years ago – after a few glasses of wine – my mum admitted to me she was surprised her and I are so close as adults, because she always felt closer to my brother.

Honestly, it was kind of a relief to hear it out loud. I don’t feel badly about it, she still absolutely loved me, I just think my brother and her had a different relationship.

On the bright side, my dad would often boast that he’d have a dozen children if he could guarantee each one was just like me, but he couldn’t risk another like my brother… so I think I was his “favourite”.

For my own kids, my relationships with the both of them are different too.

I could gush all day about how wonderful my little boy is. He’s so sweet and kind and funny. If I could have designed a my own child’s personality, he would be it. He’s just delightful.

My little girl is more of a challenge – I rarely, if ever, get angry at my son, but my daughter can just press all the buttons. But I feel more bonded with her right now. She’s still breastfeeding, she’s at home with me 24/7, we share a bed most of the night – our connection is very intense at this time in our lives. I feel like her and I are a unit. Everywhere I go, she goes.

I’ve felt that way about my little boy too! When he was her age. When it was just him and I together all the time, doing all the same things his sister does now.

I could never choose between them, or say I love one more than the other! I love them equally – just different. Because they’re different people and they’re at different stages of their lives.

So they’re both “The Special One.”

What do you think? Do you have a “favourite” child? 

About Rachel Stewart

Rachel is the founder of Parenting Central Australia. She is raising two children, boy and girl, with her partner.She has a background in early childhood education, but right now is content to be a stay at home mum.She is passionate about birthing rights, breastfeeding and mental health. She enjoys crafting, drinking coffee (sometimes wine) and spending a little too much time on Facebook.

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