What They Don’t Tell You About Pregnancy
I had a few people come up to me and tell me how they can not wait to be pregnant. That they can’t wait to be fat and such, that they don’t mind a few weeks of morning sickness. When I explained to them that morning sickness, doesn’t necessarily affect a person just in the morning, and can be a 24/7 thing, they were pretty shocked. As well as it could be longer then a few weeks in the first trimester, they were suddenly thinking.
I wonder how many preparing to be pregnant people out there, don’t realise there is more to it then getting fat and morning sickness?
For starters, morning sickness is only the tip of what happens to you when your pregnant. Some women have chronic fatigue, you have a nap, all you want to do is go back to sleep. And in the first trimester for some can be all they want to do. Meaning you miss out on work alot. By third trimester you pretty much having 2 long naps a day, if you can! I used to nap during my lunch break at work. And if you have an older kid that doesn’t nap, you sure wont be until it’s their bed time.
As for morning sickness, I was one of those lucky cows that only suffered the occasional feeling of nausea for a few weeks. I know a few poor women that was sick every day until the baby was out.
Itchy and Sore boobs. With my first, itchy boobs was the worst thing ever! I HAD to scratch. I went shopping for food one day, and was walking up an aisle, and all of a sudden a crazy itch started attack my nipple. It was so bad I had to scratch it. I actually waited for my aisle to clear just so I could do it. I hid looking in the freezer like I was about to pull something from the shelf. But to my dismay I scared the crap out of some old lady that had come up behind me. Yikes. After a few weeks of that, my nipples were red and scratched up bad.
I also had leaky boobs at 20 weeks with the first, and never had them with the second. Meaning you have to wear booby pads through out the pregnancy, or you risk the possibility of talking to your boss with wet spots on your shirt.
Hot flushes, I had these with both. It was horrible. One moment you were standing at the sink doing dishes, next thing you feel like you are bathing in lava! This is caused by the way by hormone changes, which happen A LOT when you’re pregnant.
You also fun things like circulation issues with your arms. I found no matter which way I laid in bed, I kept waking up with no sensation in my pinky and ring fingers, and you find your arms and legs go numb a hell of a lot faster too. This could be one of the bazillion reasons why sleeping can be hard in the later weeks. Also if it happens to the point it wont go away, you need to get checked for things like carpel tunnel.
Sciatica, Oh yes, I only had the occasional twinges which caused me to buckle and fall over. My husband had to help me walk home, while pulling our then 2yr old home. Sciatica is pretty common too in some pregnant women. My step sister had to use crutches in her last trimester to get around.
These are only a few goodies you look forward to. I know a woman who had no use of her arms and head for the first 2 trimesters, and had to have her mother take care of her while her husband worked.
You are a giant pin cushion when you are pregnant too, blood tests for everything, some women get iron shots, and booster shots, and don’t forget that ‘awesome’ gestational diabetes blood test.
Pregnancy also causes you to lose nutrients, them being the little parasites that they are, they suck all the goodness out of you, literally. So your diet changes as well, so say goodbye to most of your every day foods, chances are you are not allowed to eat it anymore. Also because of the lack of nutrients, your teeth decay faster.
And lastly, the amount of stress you go through during pregnancy. It is true, stress isn’t good when you are pregnant, you become more run down and all those lovely pregnancy effects can be worse then they really are. But when you are pregnant you do nothing but stress. You stress in the first trimester that you will lose the baby, after the 12 weeks you stress about if the baby is formed properly by 20 weeks. And from 20 weeks you stress about getting to the end, and then you stress about labor. Stress stress stress. It doesn’t include the stresses you maybe experiencing in your everyday life.
The other side of things that people don’t really think about is the MONEY you spend to have the baby, babies cost money before they are even here!
Depending which type of care you have, it can cost hundreds, sometimes thousands, and that is just medical related things. You still have to buy baby a crib, a change table, bottles and formula if you choose to bottle feed, nappies. And don’t forget the clothes you got to buy.
In saying all this, being pregnant is an amazing thing despite all the major drawbacks. We crazy people wouldn’t go back a 2nd or 3rd time, if it wasn’t worth it. I honestly don’t remember how most of the terrible things were during pregnancy, and kind of miss it sometimes. But you have to know, what you are going to be up for, or else you are going to hate it more then you want to.