It’s a Pillow Pet
When I first saw these advertised, and on shelves, I wasn’t that keen on them, I thought they looked weird, but I can see the appeal, they look pretty comfortable for little people to snuggle up to, just that it wasn’t something we would buy. When the dream light ones were advertised on television I thought well now there is just a gimmick to make parents part of with their cash – the hard plastic component means it’s no longer a Pillow, and also it’s no longer a toy that could be throw around or washed if it get dirty because of the light.
Fast forward to Saturday… I bought one.
Jasper had shown an interest in them and after a month or so of saying no, I hatched a devious plan. Jasper is 4 and still needs me to lay with him to fall asleep, so I asked him “IF I buy you a light up Pillow Pet, will you go to sleep all by yourself – without mummy – JUST the pillow pet?” To which he answered – “yes”. I asked him the same question several times, to be absolutely sure he understood the terms and conditions of our agreement.
– I buy you Pillow pet, in return, you self-settle. Totally reasonable request of a 4 year old. So this is how it went:
He was so excited about getting his Pillow Pet, he asked to go to bed at 6:30pm, his normal bed time is closer to 8pm. I explained throughout the day he would have a couple of stories, a couple of songs and then mummy would turn off the light, he could have his pillow pet on so he doesn’t get scared and mummy would go down stairs. At 6:45 I said goodnight, switched off the light, and went down stairs. At 6:55 a little voice calls out “Mummy! Mummy” I went back upstairs and my bright eyed little boy admits he’s not tired. I thought as much. So we went back down stairs for some quiet play time. At about 7:45 we returned back up stairs and on the way up he asked “Mummy – can you stay with me. I need somebody to lay with me or I’ll move and I’ll get up and I’ll go sleep in mummy and daddy’s bed.” Oh dear.
However after a few rounds of me going in and out, and assuring him he would be fine, actually at the point where I whispered to Daddy “My plan failed” and he pretty much he said “told you so” the little voice had stopped calling out. So it had been a success.
After a couple of stories and songs he told me CAAANNNTTTT fall asleep all by himself. Even when I assured him he had, the night before, all he remembered was me coming in to his room, not him falling asleep alone. But again, I stayed upstairs, but not IN his room, and after a few times popping in and out he went to sleep on his own.
He drove a hard bargain at bedtime, asking for 5 stories – and 5 songs, but then made such sweetly desperate pleas that I don’t leave him; I stayed in his room, but not in his bed, until he drifted off to sleep.
Jasper said on the way to bed “Mummy – I don’t want my pillow pet anymore”.
So he still takes it to bed with him, and I go with him, and lay with him until he falls asleep. It’s certainly not the end of the world that my little man just wants to be with me. Even in the few nights since I’ve stopped trying to leave him on his own to sleep he’s woken crying “Mummy, I didn’t want you to go mummy” or last night I awoke to the sound of “Mummy mummy mummy mummy!” and *thud thud thud thud* of rapid footsteps across the hall and jumping into the bed beside me.
Poor little dude. Broke my heart a bit, I think I may have to just wait until he’s ready. It’s only 10, maybe 15 minutes of my day to lie beside him until he goes to sleep. Not that much of a big deal really.
I’m not sure if I’m saying the Pillow Pet was a TOTAL waste of money, he does like to play with it, by making a tent with his blankets and look it under the covers – also he likes turning the fan on when the lights are off to watch how the stars on the ceiling flicker. It didn’t achieve its intended outcome, but it’s not a total loss.