“Mummy, how do you breed babies?”
My youngest asked me last night “Mummy, how do you breed babies?” Hilarious phrasing. I’m going to thank Minecraft for that one. On Minecraft she breeds her sheep, cows, and dogs. Most of all the dogs. She’s like a puppy farmer; the moment the puppies are grown she’s breeding them all again. It’s a bit horrifying.
However, through this she’s learned that SOMETHING happens between a Mummy and a Daddy that makes a baby appear. In Minecraft they bump faces, little hearts float above them, and then a small animal appears next to them.
If only it was that simple.
What They Know So Far
I’ve given her a lot of information about how babies happen, but she knows there’s something missing in the explanation. Something to do with the actual “breeding” part of making a baby.
I’ve told my kids that there’s an egg from Mummy and a seed from Daddy and that’s why they look a little bit like both of us. My eldest had MANY questions about DNA – most of which I relied heavily on the internet, specifically Youtube, to help answer.
I’ve shown them videos and pictures of exactly how babies grow inside the womb. We’ve had very detailed discussions about birthing (both vaginal and c-sections). And even watched some birthing videos together.
So far so good. BUT… we are circling that big question: How does the seed from Daddy actually get inside Mummy?
I Thought I Would Handle It Better
I’m really quite freaked out by answering this question! I thought I’d be cool. I thought I’d be the parent who casually whips out some book or diagram showing the exact procedure of what goes where… but… it just makes me so squeamish!
I don’t want them to know. I don’t want them to know that WE have done that. Many times in fact. Even when we’re not breeding! I really thought I’d be more comfortable with this, but I’m not. And I know the longer I put them off and given them half-answers, the bigger and scarier this “breeding” thing will become.
I don’t want them to be scared of breeding. Breeding isn’t scary. It’s actually quite fun. NOT FOR MANY MANY MANY MANY MANY MANY MANY MANY YEARS. But, it’s not a bad thing. I don’t want them to think they were created by something dirty and wrong. Or something that’s so shameful we don’t even speak about it.
But I still panic and struggle to find the right words when it comes up! And so far I’ve been able to skip around the details, but I know I won’t get away with it forever.
So, PLEASE tell me what have you told your children about the actual “breeding” part of making babies?