I have a little bit of a bone to pick with the word “Please” as it’s snuck its way into my house lately and it’s getting on my very last nerve.
“Please” is a nice enough word in itself, it’s reasonably innocuous, but when it’s used as though it has power, then it starts to grate on me a little.
Particularly when it’s used in the sentence;
“PLEASE MUMMY; I SAID PLEASE!!! PLEASE! PLEEEAAASSSEEEEEE”
Or she’ll test it out at various pitches and volumes. “Please, please, PLEASE!!!!! Please…please… PLEASE!!! Pleeaaassssseeeeeee”
I hate it. Hate it! I’d be perfectly happy if she never said “Please” again. The word has lost all meaning to me.
It doesn’t change anything, it’s not an argument in itself, it’s not currency – you cannot exchange it for goods and services – it’s just a word.
I’m not against manners. I quite like them, but I don’t think that “Please”is the be all and end all of being polite.
You know what I think is actually incredibly rude?
The times when people have held something above my child’s head, refusing to give it to them, until they say please – like they’re a puppy who needs to perform a trick to receive a treat. You wouldn’t do this to an adult, so why is it okay to do this to my children? On one occasion that this happened I even explained to the adult that my son couldn’t actually talk yet – but this apparently wasn’t a good enough excuse for him not to say please first.
I think giving that much emphases to one little word makes no sense. Especially after hearing loud and clear that “Please” really isn’t always polite! Obviously she’d still probably be whining SOMETHING at me, if not the word “please”, because she’s 4, it’s what they do, but it has really made me re-think the importance of the word.
Do you enforce the word “Please” in your house?
And if your child keeps wailing “Please” at you, have you managed to make them stop?