I had a wonderful childhood! Obviously I grew up in a time before smartphones. So as you could imagine being a child in a pre-tech-obsessed time my parents gave me their absolute undivided attention at all time. They didn’t have smart phones to distract themselves from enjoying every blissful moment of my perfect childhood..... Oh wait that never happened…Read More »
Maybe I’m the only one feeling this right now - but I feel it every year.I simultaneously feel like I’ve overdone the Christmas presents while also not having done enough.I feel like I’ve gone too far, I’ve spent too much, they don’t need so much *stuff*. They just don’t a pile of presents to make Christmas wonderful.Read More »
I was having a bit of a brag this morning about how good my kids are. And they are. I’m entirely biased, but I’ve also been told a few times in the last couple of weeks by various people (friends, one of my kid’s classroom teacher, their after school care teacher) that they are great kids.Read More »
Last night I had a nightmare about the Stephen King "It" movie that is coming out soon. I haven't even seen the original movie, but all the advertising and hype around this movie has given me the creeps. Yep, I'm so soft and easily frightened that I can get nightmares from movies I haven't even watched and that I know very little about.Read More »
I get the “joke” here. I totally understand the feeling of being so bound to your babies and role as their mother that any time out, even if it’s just a half hour trip to the supermarket can feel like a holiday. But I feel like I need to say it: A trip to the supermarket by yourself is not a holiday. A holiday is a holiday! Mums deserve better standards of what we should consider a decent break.Read More »
When my son was born I felt my lost income pretty quickly. I’d worked in childcare up until three weeks before my due date. After squirreling money away in preparation for taking time off work with him it was pretty painful watching that bank account flip into reverse and slowly drain out.Read More »
When my daughter was ten months old, after a particularly restless night with her awake every hour, I stood in my kitchen like a zombie preparing my three year old son’s breakfast. He had also woken up a couple of times that night. I was wrecked. My daughter was sitting at my feet digging around in the “tupperware” cupboard, keeping herself entertained.Read More »
Anger, disappointment, rejection, jealousy, embarrassment, the whole range of negative emotions are all are perfectly normal part of life. And we need these things. Life is light and shade. We wouldn’t have any context for happiness if we were never sad.Read More »
I’ve written before about how my adverse childhood experiences have made me the person I am, the mother I am. Mothering in a foreign country, similar to my own but far from my origins, has been challenging in practical and financial ways.Read More »
As a new parent conflicting advice can be a bit overwhelming. It can start from the hospital - ever shift change a different midwife comes in with a different opinion about how exactly you should be doing everything. Especially if the advice people are giving you goes against your own opinion and instincts.Read More »
The Project recently aired a segment about mothers regretting becoming mums. Which has naturally a divisive topic. But I think it’s an important topic to allow people to talk about.Read More »
Lifting Cars and Other Stories Of Parental Strength *UPDATE* She’s had a good couple of weeks, and we have an appointment later in the month, so hopefully we’re moving forward with this. We’ve all heard the stories of parents in a moment of crisis being able to use seemingly …Read More »
Mother’s Day Gifts For Under $20 From Kmart Mother’s Day is right around the corner and if you’re looking for some simple Mother’s Day Gifts that won’t break the bank then I’d suggest heading to Kmart. I really think that with Mothers Day gifts it’s the thought that counts. Even …Read More »
As Mother’s Day approaches I’ve been looking around trying to come up with some ideas for when my children (or really - my partner) ask me what I want the kids (him) to get me for Mother’s Day 2017.Read More »
If I could do anything for Christmas this year (or every year for that matter) it would be load the family up on a plane and fly to the Gold Coast to spend the holidays with my Grandma, Aunts, Uncles, and Cousins. But unfortunately four return flights at that time of a year are simply impossible.Read More »
Christmas and Ikea are two of my favourite things, so naturally combining the two is simply magical to me. This year I set myself a challenge - that I can find something for EVERYONE at Ikea (or at the very least every age group. If there's absolutely nothing that appears to you in all of Ikea, then bah-humbug to you!)Read More »
As the end of the year approaches we all start to ask that particularly painful question. “What are good gifts for teachers?”It’s a hard one! Because while we adore, admire, and appreciate the people who dedicated the year to teaching our childrenRead More »
I don’t let anyone touch, hug, kiss, hold, pick up or tickle my children if my child indicates they don’t want them to.They don’t even need to say “no”; we have more of a “Yes means yes” policy.Read More »
So, I’m basically the worst kind of person. I’ve done a terrible thing. I parked in the PARENTS WITH PRAMS parking and then put my toddler in a shopping trolley. I didn’t even have a pram in the car that day! When I returned from grocery shopping I found this note on my car:Read More »
I find it hard to accept help. I’ve never been very good at it. I am a proud person and hate feeling “needy”. I am the eldest of 6 kids and learned fairly early that I needed to be independent and self sufficient;Read More »
There is a lot of myths and misunderstandings about what Attachment Parenting is and how it works - usually from people who haven't really looked into what Attachment Parenting is or how it works.Read More »
I’ve heard people say things like “I basically do attachment parenting, except I don’t breastfeed” or “I like the idea of Attachment Parenting, but I don’t feel comfortable with bed sharing”. That’s could still Attachment Parenting!Read More »
When it comes to finding the right nanny for your family it’s essential to find someone who is a good match for your families needs, values and expectations.In my experience as a nanny that compatibility was the most important aspect of any job. It is an incredibly intimate working relationship a nanny practically become part of the family.Read More »
Is your newsfeed constantly flooded with “jokes” about how fathers need to be micromanaged to care for their own children? Or how men generally incapable of parenting, housework and keeping themselves alive? That men are irresponsible and essentially additional children?Read More »
Being a stay at home mum comes with both its blessings and its challenges. The things I did not realise before becoming one was that not all SAHM’s are like the ones we see on TV. All mothers make choices which cost them in different ways, this is my story and what I have sacrificed.Read More »
To all the parents out there,You're doing great!It does not matter how you came to be parents, all that matters is that you are.Read More »
Witty, well thought out responses to unsolicited parenting advice are all well and good - if you have the alertness and sassy personality to pull it off.
I do not.
You recently asked me for a photo album containing pictures of yourself for your birthday, because you’ve become increasingly aware of the fact that there are multiple albums and picture frames dedicated to your brother - and not one hard-copy photograph of you.Read More »
I never used to be a teary person. I might get a little lump in my throat watching a particularly touching movie, but I never used to cry much - unless something was really actually wrong - and definitely NOT ever “It’s so beautiful” crying. Nope. Not me.Read More »
Today I’d like to give a big shout out to Mediocre Parenting or “Good enough” parenting.If you’re a regular reader of my posts you'll already know I’m often supporting parents just doing whatever they think is best. Or the best they can at the time.Read More »
There have been times when it has taken every ounce of my being to not slap some people, in the face for the things they have dared to ask us – but I am pleased to say that up until the point of writing this, I have been able to hold it together, and my record remains clean!Read More »
This topic is almost as divisive as breastfeeding vs bottle feeding, cloth vs disposables and cosleeping vs cot-in-another-room-from-birth, all rolled into one.Is it okay to invite parents to a child-free wedding?Read More »
A friend has been told by another parent that it was inappropriate of her to have invited her daughter's grandfather to the kindy's Father's Day BBQ.Read More »
There’s lots of things I’m good at as a parent - there’s some things I’d even say I’m great at. I’m a pretty good mum. I'd like to think I can be a fun mum, I'm a patient mum, I'm an affectionate mum... but there's still a lot that I suck at as a parent that I'd like to share with you today.Read More »
I like to think of some healthy and interesting food to give my son, as we all do. I get all ‘Jamie Oliver’ on the recipes at the start, and forget about ‘future Kelly’ (I am Kelly, by the way….just to clarify and not get you confused halfway through this read).PAST KELLY is the effortless Mother of the Year.FUTURE KELLY IS the one that has to clean up all the freaking mess!Read More »
For me the biggest reason for me is the simplest – I wasn’t smacked as a child. It wasn’t something I was brought up with. We were disciplined, without a doubt. Though most of our discipline revolved around taking responsibility for our actions.Read More »
It’s seems to me that when the alphabet was invented, the letter ‘C’ had the job of starting all the crappy words. I never liked the letter ‘C’ anyway.Obviously, there are two words that are an exception to this rule…..COFFEE and CHOCOLATE.Read More »
Running late is something I feel I’m pretty qualified to give advice on. It’s something I’m skilled at, I have plenty of experience, I really know how to make this happen. So I thought I’d share some advice on how you too can be running late everywhere you go.Read More »
Some days my heart is just so full of love I feel it actually might burst.
When I was presented with the challenge of facing a life without children, one of the biggest questions I had to ask myself was, what am I going to do with all of this love inside of me?
We were driving through the beautiful countryside yesterday and my husband said, “Hey Kate, stop looking at your phone and look at the scenery.” I was in the worst mood ever (we were joking about it) and I said, “Oh would you shut up and let me look at my phone!” I’d seen the pretty scenery a million times before and it was the first time I’d had a chance to check my phone all day.Read More »
Grand slam tennis champion, Andy Murray’s mum tweeted a photo of him with the description “ The Special One with My Special One.”
Which is lovely but her other son, Jamie Murray, who is also a tennis player, was the first to respond to tweet.
Full disclosure - I do actually like parenting labels. Which I know sounds really terrible, because labelling people is supposed to be a bad thing - but I really do think labels have a time and a place.Read More »
I never planned to be “one of those mums” - those mums who tell poop stories. Come on. Really? Who talks about poop?
Turns out - I talk about poop.
I am a behaviour management expert. Yes that’s right, I said an expert in my field! I have been working with challenging children for the good part of 14 years. I have been giving advice to desperate parents on how to meet the needs of their challenging children, providing them with strategies to use and encouraging them to be firm, but loving.Read More »
I try to be nice. I try to be patient. I try to be calm. I try be understanding.
Most of the time.
I like dogs, I really do.
My kids like dogs too, but only when the dog is on a lead, is close to their owner and isn’t acting like a lunatic.
It can be so hard to relax, and find any kind of inner - or outer - peace with out busy lives and with children around. It can feel almost impossible to get the time out we need to really recharge and revive ourselves. So I've come up with a list of ideas that might help, even if you don't have the time for a proper break, most of these things can be done at home or with kids in tow.Read More »
When we’re all getting a little frazzled, when the kids are alternating between tearing apart the house and tearing apart each other. When the kids are bored, we’re drowning in mess, and I’m just too tired to deal with entertaining the kids while also somehow pulling my house together and all I want to do is lay down for 5 minutes of peace and quiet we play a little game I like to call “Nap and Clean.”Read More »
I have this routine down. It’s very well rehearsed. I know how to answer this question in a way that shuts down the conversation, because it’s a conversation that hurts to talk about. The questions that go something like:
“Are you having another baby?”
A friend once said to me that she wished I had been her mother. Watching me parent made clear to her what she had been bereft of as a child. Honestly I think is the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me.Read More »
Parenthood. The name has so many meanings – and means something different for each and every one of us. It is a difficult, rewarding and an amazing experience, often all at the same time. Life however is not unfulfilling if you do not have kids.Read More »
It's amazing how kids can be so little and so big at the same time.
My three year old daughter still needs me so intensely, but in other ways she's a big independent child.
Last night was cold. Like, seriously cold. And our “Lets save money and not turn on the central heating” resolve was broken.
My partner left for work first thing in the morning and won’t be getting home until after dark, so the task of turning on the gas heating was going to be left in my capable, grown up, hands.
Before I actually had kids I had all sorts of ideas about the type of mum I wanted to be. I wasn’t going to let having kids change my life, or change the type of person I was, and my kids were going to be well behaved, well dressed and free from snot at all times.Read More »
As mums, we are spoiled for choice when it comes to guilt. We can feel guilty about how we feed our children, how we get them to to sleep, how much TV they watch and how much quality time we spend with them. I don't think guilt is always such a bad thing. It has its place in reminding us about our own values, and if we're staying true to them.Read More »
Understandably, nobody wants their child to grow up into a spoiled, ego-centric adult. But, is purposely teaching kids that they are NOT the center of the universe, the right way to do it?Read More »
There are a few things in parenthood that I hate doing. Because I'm no good at them. I just go along with what's expected of me, dreading the whole thing. And of course, whatever it is turns out badly. Because of my bad attitude. So, I'm ready to call it - I'm no good at these things, do not like doing them, and would rather they happened elsewhere. I decided to write myself a letter:Read More »
Polite, respectful and friendly.
These words are what come to mind when I think about talking to toddlers. I have on many occasions been witness to a number of family and friends speaking to my 3 year old and my 9 month old in a way that makes me cringe.
This is in no way whatsoever a "stay at home parent vs working parent" thing. I’m also not going to talk about what I do all day and how important that is - if you’re a parent, or you’ve met parents, or you have a parent, you probably have a fair idea of what keeping children safe, fed and entertained all day involves.Read More »
I’m tired. Not I-just-need-a-nap tired.
Or If-I-had-one-good-night-sleep-I’d-feel-better tired.
Or even I-had-a-particularly-bad-sleep-last-night tired.
I’m I-don’t-know-who-I-am-without-being-tired tired.
“We live in a decaying age. Young people no longer respect their parents. They are rude and impatient. They frequently inhabit taverns and have no self control.” – Inscription, 6000 year old Egyptian tombGosh darn kids these days!Read More »
I was raised as a Christian, at different stages of my life I attended church or Sunday school with my family and up until moving out of home I said grace every evening before we ate dinner. I did Christian Education in primary school, and for my childhood and most of my teen years I had a very fond relationship with the idea of a Christian God.Read More »
I’m noticing a lot of talk about vaccination lately. I’m pretty sure it’s due to it’s due to the measles outbreak in the USA that originated in the Disneyland theme park in California. I’ve seen other bloggers posting impassioned pleas for parents on “both sides of the debate” to be kinder to each other and to understand where we are all coming from- a desire to do the best we can for our children. I can certainly see a value in kindness- nobody will change their stance if you insult and offend them repeatedly.Read More »
Average. Mediocre. Ordinary. All words to describe myself as a child. I always did ok at school, and at everything else I put my hand to, but I never really excelled at anything. I worked hard, I did what was required of me, but nothing in particular came naturally to me. Heck, I barely scraped into the university degree I desired…actually, scrap that…I didn’t even apply for the course I truly desired. Because, ordinary.Read More »
I’m always jealous when someone says with absolute certainty that they are completely done having babies, that they know with all that they are that their family is complete and they have no deeply buried yearning to do it all over again, to be pregnant, to give birth, to hold another tiny newborn, to bring another completely whole brand new person into the world. I so wish that could be me. Certain. Clear. Complete.Read More »
We recently drove from Melbourne to Sydney (and back!) with our two children, aged 2.5 and 6 years old. It's a very long drive and not one I'd want to repeat any time soon, but overall it wasn't a bad experience, but driving interstate with kids is still hard work and does require a lot of planning, preparation and decision making.Read More »
It’s that time of year again. A time for getting together, celebrating and having barbeques on barmy summer nights; for some people that means enjoying a glass of wine or an ice cold beer alongside good food and good company.But what does this mean for you if you’re currently breastfeeding?Read More »
I had a plan. It was a pretty good plan. We were going to do some pre-Christmas getting-into-the-spirit-of-things baking. It was going to be FUN. It was also going to look awesome. I was basically going to win parenting.Those plans always go well don’t they?Read More »
It’s easy to flip through a catalogue or stroll down the toy isle and find hundreds of toys to buy for kids for Christmas. But if your household is like mine, and you already often feel like you’re drowning in toys, perhaps leaning towards non-toy stocking fillers this Christmas might be in order. So I’ve compiled a list of 30 non toy gift ideas.Read More »
A Good Night’s Sleep. I’ve been moderately to severely sleep deprived for about 5 and half of the last 6 years, there have been a couple of brief patches of reasonable sleep in that time. So, I’m not holding my breath to get it any time soon, but I’d love it.Read More »
Something has been on my mind for a while and it’s something that, as a woman, a mother and as a person who has a pair of breasts, is very important to me.Saying “I support formula feeding IF” is just as bad as saying “I support breastfeeding BUT”.I breastfeed my children because I CAN and because I CHOOSE to.I’ve breastfed my son for 3 years and I’m currently breastfeeding my 2 year old.Read More »
On Saturday I was at the Pregnancy, Baby and Children’s Expo with my family and I happened to walk past the Ergobaby stand while wearing my 2.5 year old daughter on my back in my own Ergobaby carrier. One of the women running the stand initiated a conversation with me about Ergobaby and one thing led to another...so Sunday morning, I was back at the Expo, bright and early, before the doors opened to the pulblic ready for a crash course in all things Ergo to help out on the stand for the day.That’s just how I roll.Read More »
I have two children, the eldest has an absent father and the younger is donor conceived.Donors are amazing people – our donor gave us Sylvie, my daughter’s much longed for little sister.Read More »
Today – and any day – is a good day to ask people that simple question; “R U OK” You might start a conversation that could change someone's life.According to Beyond Blue in Australia:1 in 6 people will experience depression at some stage in their lives.1 in 4 people will experience anxiety.1 in 7 mothers will experience postnatal depression and 1 in 10 mothers will experience antenatal depression. Anxiety is likely to be as, if not more, common.Read More »
This moment on Futurama summarised how I feel about what I do all day - especially since being a "Stay at home Mum" for the last 3 years.Most of the time what I do goes unnoticed, not because nobody cares but because it’s just what must be done. Nappies are changed, children are fed, hugs are given, games are played, we sing songs, read stories, I get drinks, apply band aids, check temperatures, flush toilets, I prepare meal after meal after meal – whether they decide to eat it or not – I do piles of dishes and mountains of laundry, I tidy up toys, I vacuum and mop and so on and so forth.Read More »
Returning to work can be both an exciting and daunting experience, especially writing resumes for parents returning to work. For many parents, ‘self-confidence’ is holding you back and keeping you from applying for those part-time positions. Well we’re here to help! It’s only natural to feel intimidated and nervous about applying for a new job, but this is the perfect opportunity to re-vamp your resume and put your best foot forward.Read More »
Online society in particular has this thing where you have to be pro or con on the breastfeeding stance (this is how it comes across, I am not at all saying breast feeding mothers are exclusively bottle feeding haters and anti formula Nazis) I have felt more shame feeding my …Read More »
I’m raising dependent children. No, that’s not a typo. I know that independent children is supposed to be the thing that parents want to achieve, but it’s really the last thing I want to do. Like, literally the last thing I do as a parent will be when my child becomes independent. That’s when they move out, get a job, rent their own place, start doing their own laundry and when that day comes this Mumma is going to celebrate with a bottle of champers! But really, that’s at least a decade and a half away! Right now, with a 2 and 5 year old, independence isn’t the lesson of the day.Read More »
April Abbott is a Registered Nurse with extensive experience in her field who has effectively been forced out of the hospital system in order to meet the needs of her family. Recently the National Centre for Social and Economic Modelling compiled research showing that some mothers are earning as little as $3 - $4 an hour once childcare fees are taken out.Read More »
Panicking doesn’t solve anything Pretty obvious, right? But it’s easier said than done the moment the door clicked behind me when I realised I had left my hand bag inside. I gathered up the nappy bag, pram, buckled in my toddler and strolled out the door – off to collect …Read More »
Mother’s Day. For many, a day of sleep-ins, breakfast in bed, new slippers and handmade cards. For some, it also serves as a reminder of one of the most significant losses we can experience. For me, it is both of these things.My mother passed away on May 28th, 2008, the day after her 54th birthday and a couple of weeks after Mother’s Day. I don’t want to relive her illness and passing here, as almost 6 years on it is too raw a wound to re-examine.I guess what I am doing is talking about why it’s such a hard day, when your own mum isn’t here to celebrate.Read More »
Mothers day, it's almost upon us again. The chance for shops to spruke things that mums 'want'. Those fluffy dressing gowns, the heated slippers, the foot baths, fizzy bath bombs, smelly soaps and the latest romantic novels.But to me, mothers day has always been about making my mum breakfast, serving her a cup of tea, maybe a nice big bunch of flowers and seeing whether she would like to go to a farmers market.Read More »
t’s been a few days since my last Pap test, so I’m feeling very proud of myself (my doctor even gave me a Jelly Bean, so pats on the back for me!) The one prior – and only other papsmear I’ve ever had – was 5 years ago. Whoops. Better late than never though!I’m sure I’m not then only person who knows they should get it done, and then doesn’t go, and keeps on putting it off – for years. For me the biggest “fear” for me is the unknown.Read More »
Mother’s day is back! This day always sneaks up on me, as most years I consider myself the mother, and I forget about my own mother for Mother’s Day (sorry mum!) So with a few days to go, I’ve compiled a list of cheap and cheerful ways to say “Hey mum! I love you! And I’d totally buy you jewelry if I had the cash, but I don’t, so here’s what I got you instead!” (Don’t worry, my mum hasn’t been completely deprived, her birthday was a couple of months ago and I bought her jewelry then!)Read More »
I love a bit of DIY. It my surprise people after confessing to being a pram enthusiast, but I really am a very thrifty person! (How else do you think I’m able to fund my prams, got to save every penny!) More honestly though I dislike spending money on myself, and on things that are frivolous, when it comes to the kids clothes, I buy functional practical clothes – if I like the style that’s a bonus, but I’m looking for wearability, not details and frills. But, I can sew. And I love sewing things with frills and ruffles, bright colours and embellishments.Read More »
Ever have one of those days where you want to run away from home, or hide in the bathroom with a never ending bar of chocolate? I am having more and more days like that.I tripped over my toddler last night while holding my dinner. A full bowl of my favorite soup, and it went all over my computer keyboard. Needless to say after a flurry of rushing back and forth, trying to keep my kids away while I cleaned it up. My keyboard no longer works.Read More »
Breastfeeding is not a piece of cake, but there are similarities. The year my daughter turned two it took me three days to construct her birthday cake. It was a beautiful white chocolate mud cake with a fondant farm yard, inspired by something I saw by Martha Stewart. It didn’t occur to me that Martha has battalions of experts behind her, and I failed home economics. Modelling those little animals in the small hours of the night was a mission though to everybody else it might have seemed a little obsessive. Ok, perhaps more than a little. Baking and decorating my children’s birthday cakes is an act of love, and the planning and process of baking a gift in itself.Read More »
My friend phoned me and was understandably upset about a situation that had just happened to her and her son.She’d taken her daughter to school, bringing her 2 year old boy along. He was playing with a Barbie doll when they left, so Barbie came along for the ride. At school, while standing in the playground waving his big sister off to class, the little guy clutching a Barbie doll was surrounded by a small group of older boys, maybe 8 years old by my friend’s estimate. They began to taunt and tease him about his doll, asking him if he was a boy or a girl.Read More »
There’s so many polite euphemisms I’ve used to describe my daughter: “Challenging”, “Strong Willed” “Determined” and “Intense” (by which I mean “difficult” “combative” “stubborn” and “throws tantrums… a lot”) She’s always been like this, since she was a brand new baby, I’ve been shocked by how intense she can be.There have been many times I’ve looked at my wonderful little girl in the middle of a massive meltdown and wondered “Where have I gone wrong?” But when I’m calm (and she’s calm) I look back and I do know that this is the right path for us.It might be not be the right approach for all people or for all children, but it’s what works for us.Read More »
Today we visited Masters Homewares and they were having some celebration, out the front was a petting zoo and I won’t lie, I was more excited than the children were about the prospect of patting a bunch of sweet, fluffy animals!I love animals, growing up I always had several pets, my dad often joked we were running a petting zoo. Not all at the same time, but over my childhood I had a few budgies, finches, a cockatiel, I hand raised some native honey eaters, as well as a rescue duckling, we had chickens, fish, yabbies, a blue tongue lizard, a few guinea pigs, a couple of rabbits, mice, rats, dogs and cats.Read More »
My kids were bouncing around on the bed tonight, singing ‘Ring Around the Rosie‘. I told Margo (the older one) to stop (for the eighteen millionth time) because the little one is still a toddler and clumsy on her feet. Margo didn’t really listen and I didn’t really have the energy to pull them apart soooo… a minute later, they were crumpled up in a heap on the bed, crying and clutching at their freshly sustained injuries. The little one had a bloody mouth and the big kid had been bashed on the head by some sharp flying body part, like an elbow or chin. Both were hurt and both were crying really hard.Read More »
My 2 boys (ages 2 and 4) have had croup more than 5 times between them and every single time it's turned everything upside down. My last experience start last Sunday (16th March), and I thought I would share this story to help parents want to know when dealing with it.Firstly, What is Croup?Croup is a viral infection that causes an inflammation of the larynx and trachea, they swell and put pressure on the windpipe, which is what causes a very loud wheezing sound when your child breathes. It effects younger children more, because their windpipe is still small. It can last approximately 3-4 days, and the cough can last a few weeks after the inflammation has gone down. Most cases result in going to hospital for immediate assistance.Read More »
I saw a quote pop up in my Facebook feed, a familiar quote, I’ve seen it many times before. It reads:"Good mums have sticky floors, dirty ovens and happy kids!"And the response is almost always the same. A collection of mums commenting things like “so true!” “thanks, I needed that!” “I must be a GREAT mum!” and “Hey wait a minute, I have a clean floor and a clean oven and I’M a good mum too!”Read More »
I’m working the late shift this week and by that I mean, my partner is working late. I feel for him, I really do, most day's he's leaving early and he’s getting in late, he’s often getting home tired, hungry and frustrated. But as bad as I feel for him, I feel worse for me. I’m fumbling my way through this new minefield of challenges. I've had the odd evening on my own, he’s gone out at night, or stayed back at work before, but not night after night. It’s much easier to handle when it’s “just one night”, but this is a fortnight of consecutive nights and it's taking it's toll on me.Read More »
The first time I saw the "First Kiss" video, I did get caught up in this sweet and oddly familiar scene, despite it being a bizarre set up of 20 "strangers" asked to kiss for the camera, but I think we can all relate to that "first kiss" awkwardness, building - hopefully - into intimacy. But shortly after this video swept through social media, rumours that it was a "hoax" surfaced. Apparently it's video for a Wren Studio where you can actually buy some of the items seen in the video.Read More »
I really don’t know what to make of Maria Kang. On the one hand, I do like her overall message, I’ve spent some time over the last couple of days reading through her websites, looking at what she’s said in media responses and interviews, and she does appear to be promoting a positive message about mothers making themselves a priority and taking care of our bodies.Read More »
To the man who sat next to me in a hospital hallway,We didn't talk, but we shared an hour of our lives. Not just any hour, but an hour that I’m sure felt like a lifetime for you as much as it did for me. We didn’t speak. We didn’t even make eye contact while we waited in the hallway. We sat in a row of 3 seats, with an empty seat between us. We both went through the same routine to pass the time. Checking our phones: lock – unlock – lock – unlock. Tapping our feet, or jiggling our knees. Then moving to rest our elbows on our knees, and foreheads in our hands, staring at the floor, overwhelmed by our own uselessness. Then straighten up, breathe deeply, and stare at the ceiling instead.Read More »
I am the first to admit that I think reading is boring. Especially children's books. Especially when my kids often want the same books read night after night. The only time that I read is when I want information, so I am interested about the topic and require an answer. I only read if I have to.Read More »
I read this post “Why do parents make parenting sound so God-awful?” recently and then again on DailyLife under the title "Do parenting blogs put women off motherhood?" and I’ve heard childless friends express similar feelings, so I thought I’d throw a little glimmer of hope your way.I’ll start by saying that I don’t think it’s all bad to vent away, online, or in real life, it can be liberating, entertaining, and it can still be brave. I know for myself, I was telling people that I was feeling great, how much I loved being a mum, how easy my son was as a newborn – that he was sleeping well – gosh It was a fairy tale that everyone said it would be!Read More »
Firstly, I’m going to talk about sex, contraception, my sex life and my sex drive, so, look away now, or consider yourself warned. I recently took a break from the pill (The mini-pill “Microlut” as I’m currently breastfeeding our daughter). Not to try to make a baby or anything exciting like that, just because we would be staying with family, sharing a single room with our children, for a couple of months, so I figured I could give my body a bit of a break from hormonal contraception, especially when our routine was off, so after taking 2 every second day for a little while decided that was unwise and there was no reason for it anyway, so I took a break.Read More »