“Mum, play with me.” My eight year old moaned. “You never play with me anymore.” (He means since I played UNO with him this morning.)I do play with my kids. I actually play with my kids a whole lot more than my parents ever played with me.Read More »
The Favourite Child Apparently most parents have a favourite child. We just don’t admit to it. It’s the darkest of all our secrets – the kind of information we should take to our graves. Whenever anyone brings up whether or not we have a favourite child we should respond with …Read More »
My mum adopted a greyhound named Jodie a few months ago. Something that I was a little nervous about - not knowing anything about greyhounds. I had imagined they were aggressive and dangerous to have around children. I had no idea how gentle and sweet greyhounds are.Read More »
If I could do anything for Christmas this year (or every year for that matter) it would be load the family up on a plane and fly to the Gold Coast to spend the holidays with my Grandma, Aunts, Uncles, and Cousins. But unfortunately four return flights at that time of a year are simply impossible.Read More »
This isn’t just something that happens in the blogging community. This happens to basically everyone in the creative or arts industry. We’re expected to work for experience, for exposure, for trade - but not for money.Read More »
Christmas and Ikea are two of my favourite things, so naturally combining the two is simply magical to me. This year I set myself a challenge - that I can find something for EVERYONE at Ikea (or at the very least every age group. If there's absolutely nothing that appears to you in all of Ikea, then bah-humbug to you!)Read More »
Avoid food that requires more preparation than “Open packet. Dump on tray.” If you absolutely must serve something you felt like you actually put effort into, slap together a fruit platter... then you can feel like you've offered a healthy alternative to put next to the sea of chips, lollies, and chocolate biscuits.Read More »
The Year A Christmas Carol Broke My Heart *Content warning* Discusses difficulty conceiving. One Christmas, several years ago I was walking through a shopping centre with my son who had just turned 2 years old. There were decorations everywhere and Christmas Carols were playing continuously. Overall it was a lovely …Read More »
***Competition Closed*** When my son was first born I didn’t really know much about breastfeeding. I knew I wanted to breastfeed, though I didn’t really think much about it. I didn’t do any breastfeeding classes, or even read much about breastfeeding. I’d figured that breastfeeding would be just like giving …Read More »
As the end of the year approaches we all start to ask that particularly painful question. “What are good gifts for teachers?”It’s a hard one! Because while we adore, admire, and appreciate the people who dedicated the year to teaching our childrenRead More »
I don’t let anyone touch, hug, kiss, hold, pick up or tickle my children if my child indicates they don’t want them to.They don’t even need to say “no”; we have more of a “Yes means yes” policy.Read More »
So, I’m basically the worst kind of person. I’ve done a terrible thing. I parked in the PARENTS WITH PRAMS parking and then put my toddler in a shopping trolley. I didn’t even have a pram in the car that day! When I returned from grocery shopping I found this note on my car:Read More »
We are currently looking for the best pet for our family. I’ve wanted a pet for the kids for several years.I grew up with pets. I’ve had practically every kind of pet. Dogs, cats, birds, fish, rabbits, mice, rats, guinea pigs, chickens, a lizard and even a couple of yabbies called Cherax and Destructor.Read More »
It’s totally a fan letter. It’s weird because obviously she doesn’t know me, but I feel like she’s been there for me for years. She’s been my backup. My support team. My cheerleader. She’s been a source of wisdom to me.Read More »
I find it hard to accept help. I’ve never been very good at it. I am a proud person and hate feeling “needy”. I am the eldest of 6 kids and learned fairly early that I needed to be independent and self sufficient;Read More »
You could say I’m an expert on weaning. I should be, I’ve been doing it for the last 2 years. I’ve spent more time trying to wean my daughter than I've spent just breastfeeding her.Read More »
We’ve been playing Pokémon Go for a couple days now, and my 3.5-year-old loves it. I can’t help but wonder if she likes it because, on some level, she’s somehow identifying with the game. She knows what it’s like to not necessarily want to be foundRead More »
Are you brand new to babywearing?You want to babywear but you just don't know where to start? Well I've collected up all the best baby carriers for beginners.Read More »
I am just going to be honest and throw it out there and say that over the last 4 days we have watched A LOT of television.More than we normally would, as both my daughter and I have been struck down with a nasty virus that saw us trapped and housebound for what seemed like an eternity!Read More »
Here ends another World Breastfeeding Week for me. I cannot believe I’m still breastfeeding. I really thought last year was going to be the very last time I celebrated World Breastfeeding Week as a nursing mother.Read More »
I love babies. I’m ridiculously excited when my friend are pregnant and even more so when the baby arrive. I fuss, I knit them blankets that take me 40 hours, I love the smell of babies so much that even milky newborn baby spew smells good to me.Read More »
Because she asked me to. (Well, that was a quick blog post - hope I cleared that up.)No really, she asked me to. Pretty directly actually.Read More »
There is a lot of myths and misunderstandings about what Attachment Parenting is and how it works - usually from people who haven't really looked into what Attachment Parenting is or how it works.Read More »
I’ve heard people say things like “I basically do attachment parenting, except I don’t breastfeed” or “I like the idea of Attachment Parenting, but I don’t feel comfortable with bed sharing”. That’s could still Attachment Parenting!Read More »
I'm sure I'm not the only person spending school holidays at home, we have no plans aside from a few play dates and a sleep over scheduled in, so I have a lot of time to fill in and a very busy 5 year old to keep entertained. I also don't feel up to every day doing painting, baking, having paper cut up all over the floor and whatever else messy craft and activities strewn all over my floor for me to clean up. Especially when little miss two year old is pretty capable of making an enormous mess of the house on a daily basis, I'm trying to save my sanity at the same time as keeping the kids happy. Sounds like a plan, right?Read More »
Star Wars Episode 1 is popular in our house in a BIG way. The kids want to watch it all the time. So maybe it's not such a bad movie after all.One of the proudest, most exciting moments for me and a parent has been sitting down to watch Star Wars series for the first time with my kids.Read More »
When it comes to finding the right nanny for your family it’s essential to find someone who is a good match for your families needs, values and expectations.In my experience as a nanny that compatibility was the most important aspect of any job. It is an incredibly intimate working relationship a nanny practically become part of the family.Read More »
This is my current nightmare. My son would happily live off nothing but crackers and air, now can’t even eat crackers.Read More »
Yesterday was a particularly long day. It started at 3 am where my little girl woke up and simply could not fall back to sleep. I’d only gone to sleep just after 11 pm myself. She’d already woken up briefly at 1am, so my 4 hours sleep had already been broken.Read More »
So apparently there’s some controversy behind the simple statement: Fed is Best.It’s a take on “breast is best” and in three little words it acknowledges all the different way we can feed our babies that might be best for our circumstances: breastfed, formula fed, tube fed, mix fed, cross fed, supplemented feeding system fed and so on…Read More »
I was doing a little bit of housework while babywearing with my baby girl in a carrier on my back.I turned on the upright vacuum cleaner and as I started to work on the living room floor two bullants dropped out of the vacuum onto the carpet.Read More »
Is your newsfeed constantly flooded with “jokes” about how fathers need to be micromanaged to care for their own children? Or how men generally incapable of parenting, housework and keeping themselves alive? That men are irresponsible and essentially additional children?Read More »
On some subconscious level I’d assumed that would be what being a school mum looked like for me. I’d be a super involved helpful parent. I’m pretty crafty, I like being helpful, I studied teaching so I assumed I’d be the first to put my hand up as a classroom helper. I imagined I’d be an organised and shining example of what it is to be a “School Mum”.Read More »
Breastfeeding is natural and had kept the human race going since the beginning to time, but that's not to say that it's easy and something we all just pick up easily the first time we do it. It's a skill that both mother and baby have to learn.Read More »
I was recently involved in filming a clip for Medela - "Motherhood is different for everybody".I was so nervous with filming that it sounds like I was about to cry and I discovered I'm not destined for a life in television given how utterly wigged out I was by having a camera rolling.Read More »
I have a little bit of a bone to pick with the word “Please” as it’s snuck its way into my house lately and it’s getting on my very last nerve. “Please” is a nice enough word in itself, it’s reasonably innocuous, but when it’s used as though it has power, then it starts to grate on me a little.Read More »
I’ve been enthusiastically recommending Ergobaby carriers for the last 7 years as it's the most comfortable, easy to use, versatile and long-lasting carrier I've ever tried, and the Ergobaby Adapt is now the carrier I would recommend above all others.Read More »
My littlest turned 4 years old a couple of weeks ago, a birthday milestone that filled me with more dread than I could put into words. I was feeling very apprehensive about the fact that I have still not managed to wean her and so I would now be breastfeeding a 4 year old.Read More »
So, in the last month I’ve only published one thing written by me. I don’t know if anyone has actually noticed - and it’s totally okay if you haven’t - I’ve gone to some effort to conceal my “writer's block”; frequently posting amusing memes on social media and sharing guest articles.Read More »
Being a stay at home mum comes with both its blessings and its challenges. The things I did not realise before becoming one was that not all SAHM’s are like the ones we see on TV. All mothers make choices which cost them in different ways, this is my story and what I have sacrificed.Read More »
To all the parents out there,You're doing great!It does not matter how you came to be parents, all that matters is that you are.Read More »
Witty, well thought out responses to unsolicited parenting advice are all well and good - if you have the alertness and sassy personality to pull it off.
I do not.
Firstly, the picture goes viral because the vast majority of parents are sitting behind their computer screen going “ahahaha, yeah, been there, done that” OR at the very least can go “Oh, I totally can see how that went down”Read More »
I recently read a blog post by a blog ModernLifeWife31 titled "It's NEVER OK to call your toddler an ASSHOLE" and it keeps popping up in my Facebook newsfeed so I feel like I should form some kind of response to it.Read More »
Yesterday I asked my friends on Facebook one little question and the response I had was amazing! So incredibly helpful I’d feel selfish keeping it all for myself.Read More »
Not every child can be exceptional.That seems like absolute common sense, doesn't’ it? If every child was exceptional then exceptional would be normal.Read More »
Child-free friends do often get a bit of a bad press. They don’t understand what it’s REALLY like to be a parent, which occasionally leads to them giving us advice about how we should raise our children based on how they imagine parenting will be with their theoretical future children.Read More »
You recently asked me for a photo album containing pictures of yourself for your birthday, because you’ve become increasingly aware of the fact that there are multiple albums and picture frames dedicated to your brother - and not one hard-copy photograph of you.Read More »
I always thought I was vigilant with the security around my own house. Ironically, that was until I accidentally locked myself out of my own home (ironic because I’m a locksmith).Read More »
7:30am - Mr 7 year old appears beside the bed and immediately starts telling me something about minecraft. No “Good morning Mum”, no “Hey Mum, are you awake?” just “Did you know, on Minecraft, that Stampycat built a sky island?Read More »
When is it okay to leave children unattended?It’s a simple enough question and it’s one that I’m finding myself asking myself often, in small ways.Read More »
I never used to be a teary person. I might get a little lump in my throat watching a particularly touching movie, but I never used to cry much - unless something was really actually wrong - and definitely NOT ever “It’s so beautiful” crying. Nope. Not me.Read More »
Firstly - don’t.It’s a bad idea.You know it’s a bad idea. You know you’ll never get away with it. No matter how clever your ninja skills are, or how incredibly well you plan it - they’ll look, they’ll know. It wont work.Read More »
With my youngest it apparently has some kind of calling beacon telling him to just touch it. When he started wanting to touch things on the tree the play pen was erected and it kept our tree safe for a year.Read More »
Today I’d like to give a big shout out to Mediocre Parenting or “Good enough” parenting.If you’re a regular reader of my posts you'll already know I’m often supporting parents just doing whatever they think is best. Or the best they can at the time.Read More »
There have been times when it has taken every ounce of my being to not slap some people, in the face for the things they have dared to ask us – but I am pleased to say that up until the point of writing this, I have been able to hold it together, and my record remains clean!Read More »
I want to tell you something. I feel like you will understand, even if you aren’t in the same boat. Why? Because what I want to tell you relates to a desire that we all have. Something we all want.Read More »
Starting school can be daunting (for both child and parent!) at the best of times. Of course, as parents, you want to set your child up for success and independence as they start their educational journey. But how can you tell if your child is ready for school?Read More »
Within MOMENTS, before even the fluid had reached the other end of the visual window, that line came up. It was DARK. It was definite. There was no squinting involved. No inverse colours on the phone. It was all too clear.Read More »
This topic is almost as divisive as breastfeeding vs bottle feeding, cloth vs disposables and cosleeping vs cot-in-another-room-from-birth, all rolled into one.Is it okay to invite parents to a child-free wedding?Read More »
My eldest who is now 6, had done swimming lessons from mid last year, to the beginning of this year. He loved it. Followed instruction pretty well. But couldn't focus or hold on to wait his turn as the instructor taught the other 2 children in his group.Read More »
This blog post was brought to you by nearly 7 years of sleep deprivation and conflicting advice.Read More »
My youngest baby is 2 ½ and has been carried in a sling or carrier of some sort since she was a newborn. I wanted to baby wear with her for a number of reasons.Read More »
But I do have some reservations about bribing children to behave in a certain way. I'm not going to say do it or not do it. I'm in no way an expert at parenting and I'm absolutely not an expert on YOUR children, I can only share my thoughts based on what has (and hasn't) worked for me and MY children.Read More »
Referring to dads as “helpers”, “babysitters” and anything else that implies that they aren’t actually parenting their own children, that they’re just standing in for the mother for a few moments, is not a good thing.Read More »
I went for “inspiration” for blogging and ended up sort-of-but-not-really self publishing a children’s book within about 48 hours of attending the class. I had already written it about a year ago and I had most of the pictures sketched; it just wasn't in book form, it was a pile of paper I had stashed in my wardrobe.Read More »
(Firstly, to provide a little context for this letter, my kids right now are 3 and a half and nearly 7, so 3 years ago they were 6 months old and nearly 4)Hey Rach, how are you going?Read More »
A friend has been told by another parent that it was inappropriate of her to have invited her daughter's grandfather to the kindy's Father's Day BBQ.Read More »
I’ve been asked a few times for a packing/moving checklist so with all my experience moving house, this is what I can come up with.Read More »
We move house in THREE DAYS! THREE!!!Uno. Dos. Tres.That’s it. And then we’re there.Read More »
There’s lots of things I’m good at as a parent - there’s some things I’d even say I’m great at. I’m a pretty good mum. I'd like to think I can be a fun mum, I'm a patient mum, I'm an affectionate mum... but there's still a lot that I suck at as a parent that I'd like to share with you today.Read More »
I recently read a blog post titled "You Don't Need to Use Curse Words in Blog Posts" and I was surprised that I had a lot to say on the topic, despite the fact I don't really ever swear - while blogging or in real life.Read More »
I like to think of some healthy and interesting food to give my son, as we all do. I get all ‘Jamie Oliver’ on the recipes at the start, and forget about ‘future Kelly’ (I am Kelly, by the way….just to clarify and not get you confused halfway through this read).PAST KELLY is the effortless Mother of the Year.FUTURE KELLY IS the one that has to clean up all the freaking mess!Read More »
Yesterday we put a rental application in on a house - a whole house - that has easily twice the space of our current home, and I’m crossing all my fingers and toes that we are accepted. It has two living rooms, 4 bedrooms, and more cupboards than I’d know what to do with!Read More »
For me the biggest reason for me is the simplest – I wasn’t smacked as a child. It wasn’t something I was brought up with. We were disciplined, without a doubt. Though most of our discipline revolved around taking responsibility for our actions.Read More »
It’s seems to me that when the alphabet was invented, the letter ‘C’ had the job of starting all the crappy words. I never liked the letter ‘C’ anyway.Obviously, there are two words that are an exception to this rule…..COFFEE and CHOCOLATE.Read More »
It’s occurred to me this is my very last “World Breastfeeding Week” as a breastfeeding mother.With any luck my youngest will be weaned soon, and even though in my heart I would like another baby, I know there’s a really strong possibility that our daughter is our last child and no more babies = no more breastfeeding.Read More »
Running late is something I feel I’m pretty qualified to give advice on. It’s something I’m skilled at, I have plenty of experience, I really know how to make this happen. So I thought I’d share some advice on how you too can be running late everywhere you go.Read More »
Some days my heart is just so full of love I feel it actually might burst.
When I was presented with the challenge of facing a life without children, one of the biggest questions I had to ask myself was, what am I going to do with all of this love inside of me?
This is half how to, how not to, how I do it (ha like I do this regularly). Full disclosure I might be a little bit of an anxious, stressed out person who likes to be in control and have a plan. But I also want to have fun and pretend to not be those things.
Immunising a baby is relatively easy. They don’t move, they don’t know what’s coming and they forget pretty quickly afterwards if you dangle a shiny toy in their face or give them milk.
4 year old immunisations?
Today I cleaned out the kids toys. All them. Every single one of them. Starting by piling everything they own into washing baskets and then dumping it on the living room floor to thoroughly sort through and tidy up. That was the plan at least - I ended up experiencing a full rage of emotions.You're probably familiar with "The 7 Stages of Grief". They apply to cleaning as well. They're the "7 Stages of cleaning out the kids toys."Read More »
Bloggers are people, with flaws and feelings. They provide a diverse range of perspectives on limitless topics. Plus I’ve never met a blogger I didn’t like.Read More »
To the Person who Double Parked in front of the school gate,
Hi, I don’t know if you saw me, I was 2 cars back from you while you unloaded your kids from the car so they could run directly through the school gate 4 minutes before the bell went. I don’t know if you noticed there was a parking space about 5 meters in front of you.
We were driving through the beautiful countryside yesterday and my husband said, “Hey Kate, stop looking at your phone and look at the scenery.” I was in the worst mood ever (we were joking about it) and I said, “Oh would you shut up and let me look at my phone!” I’d seen the pretty scenery a million times before and it was the first time I’d had a chance to check my phone all day.Read More »
I’m hesitant to write about this because I’m so afraid this will be misunderstood. I'm really not looking for judgement, or criticism. I'm feeling a little fragile, so I don't think I could take it right now.Read More »
So, a couple of days ago someone told me something that had been said about me that wasn’t very nice. Actually, it was pretty horrible. Also extremely unfair and simply untrue.
Nonetheless, it was said. It was told from one person to another person and then that other person told me.
Grand slam tennis champion, Andy Murray’s mum tweeted a photo of him with the description “ The Special One with My Special One.”
Which is lovely but her other son, Jamie Murray, who is also a tennis player, was the first to respond to tweet.
Full disclosure - I do actually like parenting labels. Which I know sounds really terrible, because labelling people is supposed to be a bad thing - but I really do think labels have a time and a place.Read More »
I never planned to be “one of those mums” - those mums who tell poop stories. Come on. Really? Who talks about poop?
Turns out - I talk about poop.
I am a behaviour management expert. Yes that’s right, I said an expert in my field! I have been working with challenging children for the good part of 14 years. I have been giving advice to desperate parents on how to meet the needs of their challenging children, providing them with strategies to use and encouraging them to be firm, but loving.Read More »
I try to be nice. I try to be patient. I try to be calm. I try be understanding.
Most of the time.
I’m over cooking dinner.
Thinking about it. Planning it. Buying it. (Spending all that money.) Bringing it home. Cooking it. Serving it. Hoping it actually gets eaten.
All of it. The whole process. I’m over it.
I like dogs, I really do.
My kids like dogs too, but only when the dog is on a lead, is close to their owner and isn’t acting like a lunatic.
It can be so hard to relax, and find any kind of inner - or outer - peace with out busy lives and with children around. It can feel almost impossible to get the time out we need to really recharge and revive ourselves. So I've come up with a list of ideas that might help, even if you don't have the time for a proper break, most of these things can be done at home or with kids in tow.Read More »
When we’re all getting a little frazzled, when the kids are alternating between tearing apart the house and tearing apart each other. When the kids are bored, we’re drowning in mess, and I’m just too tired to deal with entertaining the kids while also somehow pulling my house together and all I want to do is lay down for 5 minutes of peace and quiet we play a little game I like to call “Nap and Clean.”Read More »
For a couple of years now, I’ve been contemplating my children’s education. I, myself, am a school teacher, which actually complicates things, because I’ve seen both the good and bad sides of traditional schooling. I like the idea of traditional school because of the community, plus the shared responsibility of taking care of children (it’s hard work being with your kids 24/7 and never having a break)Read More »
Last night was a bit of a difficult bedtime for my little girl - who’s just turned 3. Which is unusual for her, she’s can be pretty strong willed and intense, but she thrives on routine and bedtime is all about routine, so she usually goes through it all without event and she’s pretty tired at the end of the day.Read More »
I’m going for my driving test tomorrow - and I won't lie, I’m more than a little nervous.
I’ve been on my Ls for about 7 years (so, not long - ha) I’ve always been a little anxious around cars - both in them and just in general. I have for as long as I can remember always been just a little jumpy as a passenger.
I have this routine down. It’s very well rehearsed. I know how to answer this question in a way that shuts down the conversation, because it’s a conversation that hurts to talk about. The questions that go something like:
“Are you having another baby?”