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Common Misunderstandings About Local Adoption

There have been times when it has taken every ounce of my being to not slap some people, in the face for the things they have dared to ask us – but I am pleased to say that up until the point of writing this, I have been able to…

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I Just Can’t Get Enough Sleep

I want to tell you something. I feel like you will understand, even if you aren’t in the same boat. Why? Because what I want to tell you relates to a desire that we all have. Something we all want.

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School Readiness – Is your child is ready for school ?

Starting school can be daunting (for both child and parent!) at the best of times. Of course, as parents, you want to set your child up for success and independence as they start their educational journey. But how can you tell if your child is ready for school?

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Uh oh. What happened????

Within MOMENTS, before even the fluid had reached the other end of the visual window, that line came up. It was DARK. It was definite. There was no squinting involved. No inverse colours on the phone. It was all too clear.

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Inviting Parents To A Child-free Wedding

This topic is almost as divisive as breastfeeding vs bottle feeding, cloth vs disposables and cosleeping vs cot-in-another-room-from-birth, all rolled into one. Is it okay to invite parents to a child-free wedding?

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In The Deep End – Learning to swim

My eldest who is now 6, had done swimming lessons from mid last year, to the beginning of this year. He loved it. Followed instruction pretty well. But couldn't focus or hold on to wait his turn as the instructor taught the other 2 children in his group.

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How to put a baby to sleep in 8 easy steps

This blog post was brought to you by nearly 7 years of sleep deprivation and conflicting advice.

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6 Reasons Why I Wear My Toddler

My youngest baby is 2 ½ and has been carried in a sling or carrier of some sort since she was a newborn. I wanted to baby wear with her for a number of reasons.

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Rewards, Incentives and Bribing Children

But I do have some reservations about bribing children to behave in a certain way. I'm not going to say do it or not do it. I'm in no way an expert at parenting and I'm absolutely not an expert on YOUR children, I can only share my thoughts based…

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Dads Are Parents not Babysitters

Referring to dads as “helpers”, “babysitters” and anything else that implies that they aren’t actually parenting their own children, that they’re just standing in for the mother for a few moments, is not a good thing.

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So… I wrote a children’s book…

I went for “inspiration” for blogging and ended up sort-of-but-not-really self publishing a children’s book within about 48 hours of attending the class. I had already written it about a year ago and I had most of the pictures sketched; it just wasn't in book form, it was a pile…

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To Myself 3 Years Ago – Parenting Gets Easier

(Firstly, to provide a little context for this letter, my kids right now are 3 and a half and nearly 7, so 3 years ago they were 6 months old and nearly 4) Hey Rach, how are you going?

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Father’s Day And Inclusive Language

A friend has been told by another parent that it was inappropriate of her to have invited her daughter's grandfather to the kindy's Father's Day BBQ.

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Packing To-Do List (and approximate schedule)

I’ve been asked a few times for a packing/moving checklist so with all my experience moving house, this is what I can come up with.

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We’re Moving House

We move house in THREE DAYS! THREE!!! Uno. Dos. Tres. That’s it. And then we’re there.

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Things I Suck At As A Parent

There’s lots of things I’m good at as a parent - there’s some things I’d even say I’m great at. I’m a pretty good mum. I'd like to think I can be a fun mum, I'm a patient mum, I'm an affectionate mum... but there's still a lot that I…

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Bloggers with a Potty-Mouth

I recently read a blog post titled "You Don't Need to Use Curse Words in Blog Posts" and I was surprised that I had a lot to say on the topic, despite the fact I don't really ever swear - while blogging or in real life.

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Future Me’s Problem

I like to think of some healthy and interesting food to give my son, as we all do. I get all ‘Jamie Oliver’ on the recipes at the start, and forget about ‘future Kelly’ (I am Kelly, by the way….just to clarify and not get you confused halfway through this…

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6 Things I love About Smaller Homes

Yesterday we put a rental application in on a house - a whole house - that has easily twice the space of our current home, and I’m crossing all my fingers and toes that we are accepted. It has two living rooms, 4 bedrooms, and more cupboards than I’d know…

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Why I Use Positive Discipline Instead Of Smacking

For me the biggest reason for me is the simplest – I wasn’t smacked as a child. It wasn’t something I was brought up with. We were disciplined, without a doubt. Though most of our discipline revolved around taking responsibility for our actions.

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THE LETTER ‘C’ IS NASTY (Croup and Conjunctivitis)

It’s seems to me that when the alphabet was invented, the letter ‘C’ had the job of starting all the crappy words. I never liked the letter ‘C’ anyway.Obviously, there are two words that are an exception to this rule…..COFFEE and CHOCOLATE.

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My Last World Breastfeeding Week While Breastfeeding

It’s occurred to me this is my very last “World Breastfeeding Week” as a breastfeeding mother. With any luck my youngest will be weaned soon, and even though in my heart I would like another baby, I know there’s a really strong possibility that our daughter is our last child…

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How to Always Be Running Late

Running late is something I feel I’m pretty qualified to give advice on. It’s something I’m skilled at, I have plenty of experience, I really know how to make this happen. So I thought I’d share some advice on how you too can be running late everywhere you go.

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All it takes to make a family

Some days my heart is just so full of love I feel it actually might burst. When I was presented with the challenge of facing a life without children, one of the biggest questions I had to ask myself was, what am I going to do with all of this…

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How To Prepare For Night Out As A Mum

This is half how to, how not to, how I do it (ha like I do this regularly). Full disclosure I might be a little bit of an anxious, stressed out person who likes to be in control and have a plan. But I also want to have fun and…

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How to explain immunisations to your 4 year old

Immunising a baby is relatively easy. They don’t move, they don’t know what’s coming and they forget pretty quickly afterwards if you dangle a shiny toy in their face or give them milk. 4 year old immunisations?

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The 7 Stages of Cleaning Out the Kids Toys

Today I cleaned out the kids toys. All them. Every single one of them. Starting by piling everything they own into washing baskets and then dumping it on the living room floor to thoroughly sort through and tidy up. That was the plan at least - I ended up experiencing…

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Bloggers Are People Too

Bloggers are people, with flaws and feelings. They provide a diverse range of perspectives on limitless topics. Plus I’ve never met a blogger I didn’t like.

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Warning – School Parking Rant Ahead

To the Person who Double Parked in front of the school gate, Hi, I don’t know if you saw me, I was 2 cars back from you while you unloaded your kids from the car so they could run directly through the school gate 4 minutes before the bell went.…

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Oh, Shut Up and Let Me Use My Phone!

We were driving through the beautiful countryside yesterday and my husband said, “Hey Kate, stop looking at your phone and look at the scenery.” I was in the worst mood ever (we were joking about it) and I said, “Oh would you shut up and let me look at my…

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Weaning a Toddler – and Failing

I’m hesitant to write about this because I’m so afraid this will be misunderstood. I'm really not looking for judgement, or criticism. I'm feeling a little fragile, so I don't think I could take it right now.

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What Other People Think Of Me Is None Of My Business

So, a couple of days ago someone told me something that had been said about me that wasn’t very nice. Actually, it was pretty horrible. Also extremely unfair and simply untrue. Nonetheless, it was said. It was told from one person to another person and then that other person told…

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The Special One

Grand slam tennis champion, Andy Murray’s mum tweeted a photo of him with the description “ The Special One with My Special One.” Which is lovely but her other son, Jamie Murray, who is also a tennis player, was the first to respond to tweet.

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Parenting Labels

Full disclosure - I do actually like parenting labels. Which I know sounds really terrible, because labelling people is supposed to be a bad thing - but I really do think labels have a time and a place.

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Poop stories

I never planned to be “one of those mums” - those mums who tell poop stories. Come on. Really? Who talks about poop? Turns out - I talk about poop.

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Taking My Own Advice

I am a behaviour management expert. Yes that’s right, I said an expert in my field! I have been working with challenging children for the good part of 14 years. I have been giving advice to desperate parents on how to meet the needs of their challenging children, providing them…

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Just Leave Me Alone! (I’m All Touched out)

I try to be nice. I try to be patient. I try to be calm. I try be understanding. I try. Most of the time.

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I Quit Cooking Dinner!

I’m over cooking dinner. Thinking about it. Planning it. Buying it. (Spending all that money.) Bringing it home. Cooking it. Serving it. Hoping it actually gets eaten. All of it. The whole process. I’m over it.

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Please Don’t Assume My Kids Love Dogs

I like dogs, I really do. My kids like dogs too, but only when the dog is on a lead, is close to their owner and isn’t acting like a lunatic.

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10 Ways To Relax When You’re a Parent

It can be so hard to relax, and find any kind of inner - or outer - peace with out busy lives and with children around. It can feel almost impossible to get the time out we need to really recharge and revive ourselves. So I've come up with a…

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Hide and Seek = Nap and Clean

When we’re all getting a little frazzled, when the kids are alternating between tearing apart the house and tearing apart each other. When the kids are bored, we’re drowning in mess, and I’m just too tired to deal with entertaining the kids while also somehow pulling my house together and…

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Micro Schooling

For a couple of years now, I’ve been contemplating my children’s education. I, myself, am a school teacher, which actually complicates things, because I’ve seen both the good and bad sides of traditional schooling. I like the idea of traditional school because of the community, plus the shared responsibility of…

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Bedtime Dramas, Doubts and Dilemmas

Last night was a bit of a difficult bedtime for my little girl - who’s just turned 3. Which is unusual for her, she’s can be pretty strong willed and intense, but she thrives on routine and bedtime is all about routine, so she usually goes through it all without…

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Getting My Drivers Licence

I’m going for my driving test tomorrow - and I won't lie, I’m more than a little nervous. I’ve been on my Ls for about 7 years (so, not long - ha) I’ve always been a little anxious around cars - both in them and just in general. I have…

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Are You Having Another Baby?

I have this routine down. It’s very well rehearsed. I know how to answer this question in a way that shuts down the conversation, because it’s a conversation that hurts to talk about. The questions that go something like: “Are you having another baby?”

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5 Practical Tips to Help your Fussy Eater

Children who have food sensitivities may be defensive towards the taste, texture, smell, colour or even shape of the food. It is important to be patient and have strategies in place to ensure meal time is fun and stress-free. Children with sensory processing challenges often are considered ‘fussy eaters’, as…

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I Always Wanted To Be A Writer

Being a writer is the one thing I ever firmly knew I wanted to be when I “grew up”. I always loved reading. I started reading fantasy fiction novels when I was 12 and that was when I felt like that was what I wanted to do.

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Holes In Our Lives

A friend once said to me that she wished I had been her mother. Watching me parent made clear to her what she had been bereft of as a child. Honestly I think is the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me.

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Destination Parenthood

Parenthood. The name has so many meanings – and means something different for each and every one of us. It is a difficult, rewarding and an amazing experience, often all at the same time. Life however is not unfulfilling if you do not have kids.

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Big Little Kids

It's amazing how kids can be so little and so big at the same time. My three year old daughter still needs me so intensely, but in other ways she's a big independent child.

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Formula Feeding – No Guilt Required

Deciding to formula feed your baby, can be an easy decision for some, but for others they may have that decision made for them, when for some untold reason they can not breastfeed their baby; and some feel real guilt over this.

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I’m better at Parenting than I am at Adulting

Last night was cold. Like, seriously cold. And our “Lets save money and not turn on the central heating” resolve was broken. My partner left for work first thing in the morning and won’t be getting home until after dark, so the task of turning on the gas heating was…

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Tantrums; Theirs and Mine

My two year old has had three epic tantrums in the past ninety minutes. There is chewed up corn on the rug. And non-chewed rice. And a spoon. And possibly what is left of my sanity, smooshed up in the bits of corn and rice.

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Just Take The Compliment

I have an major issue with accepting compliments, I seem to habitually disagree with the person who is trying to genuinely trying to offer me a compliment, so I thought, I should write myself an open letter and share it because I’ve noticed I’m not the only person who does…

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Things I Swore I’d Never Do As A Mum

Before I actually had kids I had all sorts of ideas about the type of mum I wanted to be. I wasn’t going to let having kids change my life, or change the type of person I was, and my kids were going to be well behaved, well dressed and…

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Ergobaby Expo Take Two

I just finished an amazing, whirlwind, exhausting but oh-so-much fun few days working on the Ergobaby stand at the Baby and Toddler Show with the fantastic team from Babes In Arms.

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Elliot and Daddy’s Bedtime Routine

Over the last few weeks since we moved into our new home our toddler (20 months) has developed (been encouraged into) a really sweet bedtime routine. Bed time is now my favorite time of day.

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5 Things Mums Should Never Feel Guilty about. EVER.

As mums, we are spoiled for choice when it comes to guilt. We can feel guilty about how we feed our children, how we get them to to sleep, how much TV they watch and how much quality time we spend with them. I don't think guilt is always such…

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My Kids Are The Centre Of The Universe… for now…

Understandably, nobody wants their child to grow up into a spoiled, ego-centric adult. But, is purposely teaching kids that they are NOT the center of the universe, the right way to do it?

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Red Bread and The Way She Eats

As a pre-baby mum I promised myself to always provide nutritional and healthy meals and snacks to my kids no matter what. But 3 years later I have miss 3 and miss 9 months and guess what??? Miss 3 can be as stubborn in regards to eating a variety of…

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What Not to Say To A Sleep Deprived Mum

The twins have me on my toes again. Just when I thought we were past the worst of the night-waking in our house, here I am, back in the land of sleep-deprivation. Make that accumulated sleep-deprivation. Because a one-off night of waking up to children can be recovered from with…

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Oh, For The Love of Brelfies

For those of you who haven't heard it's a term to describe pictures of breastfeeding. Breastfeeding Selfies. Brelfies.

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Dear Me. You Are Not A Craft Mum. LET IT GO.

There are a few things in parenthood that I hate doing. Because I'm no good at them. I just go along with what's expected of me, dreading the whole thing. And of course, whatever it is turns out badly. Because of my bad attitude. So, I'm ready to call it…

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Talking to Toddlers

Polite, respectful and friendly. These words are what come to mind when I think about talking to toddlers. I have on many occasions been witness to a number of family and friends speaking to my 3 year old and my 9 month old in a way that makes me cringe.

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Was He Planned?

"Was he planned" is one of the most ridiculous (also rude) questions I’ve ever been asked and still after 7 years of being asked it I’m still not entirely sure what kind of answer people are looking for... But the question itself is completely absurd, because the only answer there…

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I Don’t Believe In Ghosts But…

I’m not really sure what it was about that apartment, but there was always an underlying feeling of unease there. It wasn't anything to do with how the apartment looked - it wasn't an older place. It didn't have any bad history. It was a nice apartment in a nice…

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My Dollar Value as a Stay At Home Parent

This is in no way whatsoever a "stay at home parent vs working parent" thing. I’m also not going to talk about what I do all day and how important that is - if you’re a parent, or you’ve met parents, or you have a parent, you probably have a…

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Expressing in public

Kidspot recently published an article titled “How to express when out and about" but what the piece was about was whether or not a person should express while out, not anything about how to. If I was going to write a “How to" about expressing in public it would read:

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Budget Friendly Babywearing

Babywearing can be expensive - but it doesn’t have to be! And spending more money doesn’t necessarily mean a better carrier. We bought the top-of-the-range absolute most expensive carrier stocked in Babies Galore (6 years ago - there wasn’t much to choose from) and it’s still the most money I’ve…

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Eco Mum’s Breast Milk Booster

My 3 month old baby boy is doing beautifully! He is feeding like a champion and sleeping like an angel. I am very blessed. That being said, a few weeks ago I noticed that my milk was not 'letting down' as often as it used to and that there was…

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Why I’m About to Breastfeed a 3 Year Old… Again.

Tomorrow my daughter turns 3. Holy moly. I don’t even know how that happened. I swear she was only born 5 minutes ago. Her language development in the last month has been incredible, she’s catching up in leaps and bounds, talking constantly and proving herself to be a very clever.

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An Incomplete person – I’m a Tired Mum

I’m tired. Not I-just-need-a-nap tired. Or If-I-had-one-good-night-sleep-I’d-feel-better tired. Or even I-had-a-particularly-bad-sleep-last-night tired. I’m I-don’t-know-who-I-am-without-being-tired tired. That tired.

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Gosh Darn Kids These Days

“We live in a decaying age. Young people no longer respect their parents. They are rude and impatient. They frequently inhabit taverns and have no self control.” – Inscription, 6000 year old Egyptian tomb Gosh darn kids these days!

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Religious Education in Public Schools

I was raised as a Christian, at different stages of my life I attended church or Sunday school with my family and up until moving out of home I said grace every evening before we ate dinner. I did Christian Education in primary school, and for my childhood and most…

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A Shot of Reason – Vaccination debate

I’m noticing a lot of talk about vaccination lately. I’m pretty sure it’s due to it’s due to the measles outbreak in the USA that originated in the Disneyland theme park in California. I’ve seen other bloggers posting impassioned pleas for parents on “both sides of the debate” to be…

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The Working Mum’s Thesaurus

Average. Mediocre. Ordinary. All words to describe myself as a child. I always did ok at school, and at everything else I put my hand to, but I never really excelled at anything. I worked hard, I did what was required of me, but nothing in particular came naturally to…

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I think I’m Done Having Babies

I’m always jealous when someone says with absolute certainty that they are completely done having babies, that they know with all that they are that their family is complete and they have no deeply buried yearning to do it all over again, to be pregnant, to give birth, to hold…

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Why All The Questions

According to this study children ask a lot of questions. I know. Ground breaking. Who knew? The most prolific questioners are girls aged 4 years, asking a whopping 390 questions per day, which is an average of a question every 1 minute and 56 seconds while awake. My daughter is…

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Understanding Gender Role Stereotypes as a Developmental Milestone

A friend recently shared this image on Facebook. At first I thought it was somehow a joke - surely this isn’t real? Surely her 3 year old child wasn’t assessed in childcare as a pass/fail (well, “Met/Developing”) for her knowledge of gender stereotypes. Or at the very least an outdated…

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8 Reasons I’ll Miss the School Holidays

School is going back all over the country over the next week! My newsfeed is full of first days and new uniforms and parents announcing “FREEDOM!!!” There’s biggest babies starting school, and youngest babies starting school – and from what I can tell the latter is more difficult to deal…

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Bonding with Baby – Love as a Journey

I’ve started writing about my experience of bonding with my son countless times, it’s something I’ve wanted to share, but I haven’t felt ready to share all of it. I've wanted to put it out there so that anyone who might have experienced it can know they're not alone, but…

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Dad’s Babywearing – “Real Men” Wear Their Babies

It seems that there are quite a lot of people out there who still think that dads babywearing is unusual because it's something that only mother’s do; that it’s somehow a feminine activity. It’s an idea that I find more than a little absurd, and I think to explain exactly…

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7 Tips for Driving Interstate With Kids (plus night vs day driving)

We recently drove from Melbourne to Sydney (and back!) with our two children, aged 2.5 and 6 years old. It's a very long drive and not one I'd want to repeat any time soon, but overall it wasn't a bad experience, but driving interstate with kids is still hard work…

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My Kid’s Most Prized Possession

A fight broke out this morning between my 2 and 6 year old over a toy. It was about as intense as their fights get, started off with shouting and screaming and ended with a block hurled at someone’s head and the tears that followed. Both children needed a talking…

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Alcohol and breastfeeding

It’s that time of year again. A time for getting together, celebrating and having barbeques on barmy summer nights; for some people that means enjoying a glass of wine or an ice cold beer alongside good food and good company. But what does this mean for you if you’re currently…

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Biscuit “Gingerbread” House

I had a plan. It was a pretty good plan. We were going to do some pre-Christmas getting-into-the-spirit-of-things baking. It was going to be FUN. It was also going to look awesome. I was basically going to win parenting. Those plans always go well don’t they?

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Babywearing Hollywood Style

If you look at how Babywearing is portrayed on tv and in movies- it’s no wonder people choose the least ergonomic carriers to start with! So often they are narrow based, outward facing and just look damn uncomfy to anyone who wears an older baby or toddler with any regularity.…

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30 Non Toy Gift Ideas

It’s easy to flip through a catalogue or stroll down the toy isle and find hundreds of toys to buy for kids for Christmas. But if your household is like mine, and you already often feel like you’re drowning in toys, perhaps leaning towards non-toy stocking fillers this Christmas might…

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Quarter Life Crisis

I've been feeling flat, unmotivated, lost, bored, lonely and uneasy. I have a constant “There’s something I should be doing” feeling. But even when have things I SHOULD be doing, I often don't have the energy to do them.

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9 things I REALLY want for Christmas

A Good Night’s Sleep. I’ve been moderately to severely sleep deprived for about 5 and half of the last 6 years, there have been a couple of brief patches of reasonable sleep in that time. So, I’m not holding my breath to get it any time soon, but I’d love…

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Life After Losing a Baby (Trigger Warning)

Recently I went and placed a single white rose on the grave of my daughter Melissa, she would have been 32 years old if she had lived. Melissa was born at 3 o’clock in the afternoon, 4th October 1982. She was delivered by cesarean and weighed only 5lb 3 oz…

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Deck The Walls – Christmas is Coming

There seems to be two distinct groups of people on Social Media as Christmas approaches: People who post about how excited they are about Christmas and people who post about how annoying people who post about how excited they are about Christmas.

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7 Gentle and Effective Ways to Respond When Your Child Acts Aggressive

It’s a stab to the heart… When your gently raised child starts biting, hitting, pushing and smacking. You always hear that children learn by watching their parents… but YOU do not bite, hit, push or smack, so why is your child? It’s baffling and it can become quite frustrating to…

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“I Support Formula Feeding If…”

Something has been on my mind for a while and it’s something that, as a woman, a mother and as a person who has a pair of breasts, is very important to me. Saying “I support formula feeding IF” is just as bad as saying “I support breastfeeding BUT”. I…

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Choosing an Ergobaby Carrier

On Saturday I was at the Pregnancy, Baby and Children’s Expo with my family and I happened to walk past the Ergobaby stand while wearing my 2.5 year old daughter on my back in my own Ergobaby carrier. One of the women running the stand initiated a conversation with me…

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Feeding a Fussy Eater

A long time ago, before I had children, someone told me they cooked their family multiple meals a night to cater to their family’s individual tastes. I thought that was ridiculous. I thought: one day, when I have a family, there is no way I’ll be making an alternate dinner…

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Not Just A Donor

I have two children, the eldest has an absent father and the younger is donor conceived. Donors are amazing people – our donor gave us Sylvie, my daughter’s much longed for little sister.

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Hippybottomus OSFM Pocket Nappy Review

I have had the opportunity to test out MCN's in the past through my work as an Early Childhood Educator on a few of the babies who used MCN's, but never on my own baby. The ease and convenience of disposable nappies is a big win for me, especially with…

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Woolworths “Once Upon a Time” Baby Products Review

The Woolworths Once upon a baby range is a relatively new supermarket market brand of baby goods. I have fallen in love with this brand and when trying a new product with my baby I always look for a once upon a time option first. It's great quality and a…

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15 Babywearing Benefits

There are so many babywearing benefits for both the parent and the baby. Here are a few things that we love about babywearing! Babywearing turns working from A to B into a bonding opportunity. I got my very first carrier when my son was 3 weeks old and part of…

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